As humans, I believe we like to overcomplicate life. I, for one, have had my fair share of tragic overthinking. Usually, when things come too easily, they must be wrong simply because there was no difficulty to get there. There must be something bad that is coming.
When we figure out a math problem and it was easy, we assume we screwed up along the way and there's no chance it is correct. We do the same with our speech.
We're too scared to text the cute boy we met at a party last week. Too nervous to tell our FWB we want more. We worry if our texts are saying too much or if it's just right, or if we should even send them at all. We seek approval that we won't be disappointed. We are always too scared to say what we truly believe in fear of losing people and moments. I've found recently this is usually directed at people we have romantic feelings towards.
I've started asking myself why and being less scared to lay it all on the line. I believe everything happens for a reason and if it doesn't work out, then that's what was meant to be. We shouldn't be afraid of saying too much. If the other person gets overwhelmed or spooked or whatever, then it's obvious they weren't meant to be in your life. You shouldn't have to change how you are to keep someone, at least not drastically. The people meant to be in your life will accept and love you just as you are.
I believe that we are all on a path, and that path is going to continue regardless of what you say. This is why when my friends are debating and hesitating on what to say to their significant others and romantic interests, even just to their friends, I encourage them to say what they really want to say. Life is too short to go through it holding in all the thoughts and phrases and compliments you think to say, but can never vocalize. How will anyone know how you truly think and feel if you don't tell them?
This doesn't mean you need to go through life blurting things out or speaking without thinking. Everything has it's own time and place. However, you shouldn't be scared to tell someone you enjoyed hanging out with them. You should be able to tell someone when you miss them, hate them or are fond of them. You should be able to have open communication about expectations and wants.
Life is messy. Love is messy. Honesty is messy. In my mind, honesty is always the best and we should all strive to have a bit more honesty in our lives. What would you say that was completely honest, even if it might hurt someone?
