There’s A Constant Battle Between Making An Effort And Going With 'The Flow'

There’s A Constant Battle Between Making An Effort And Going With 'The Flow'

You must strive to find your voice because the longer you wait to begin, the less likely you are to find it at all." — Robin Williams


There is no such thing as a flow. The world and society have never created an actual flow to support the phrase "go with the flow." We as a society have just attached on random feelings and thoughts to the phrase for situations we might be dealing with at the time. But for an old soul like mine; going with the flow has never been or will be a thing that we can necessarily do. Because we grew up being taught that it's better to show effort, from both sides of a friendship or relationship. If you want to be or talk to someone you will; if you want to show appreciation you just do it.

There's no beating around the bush because honestly going with the flow is something you do when you aren't sure or you might not want to fully engage yourself into that specific thing person or place. Am I right or what? This feels like it's keeping it super casual, but in all reality that is a short-term for beating around the point and not comforting them head-on.

Which can lead to causing uncertainty, not knowing the position or where the other person emotions may be. It makes the person getting no feedback or effort feel as the other person might feel distant, or are having a negative emotion. So for all people who want to go with the flow, make a change.

Today's society is all about being "chill," "going with the flow," "laid back" but be bold. Show appreciation, love kindness and best of all show that you want to be a part of someone's life. There's nothing wrong with being a little extra, and showing love to the ones around you even if that is something that others might not do. The smallest of actions can mean the most to others.

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Growing up, my mom would usually have to cook me a separate dinner from my siblings. Why? Because I was ridiculously picky and wouldn't eat the same foods as everyone else. Trust me, it gets old. It's not my fault certain things just taste gross, you learn to live with it.

1. You eat something you hate just to see if you still hate it

I'll take a bite of a burger every once in a while just to reaffirm that it still tastes like dirt. I just have to know. Don't even get me started on vegetables.

2. When trying to explain what you actually like to eat, people give you major side eye

Don't ask me about my eating habits unless you want to get into a long, confusing conversation.

3. Eating at someone else’s house when you were younger was a pain

You hate to tell their parents just how much you hate the food that they gave you. So, you sucked it up and ate it anyway only to come home and whine to your parents.

4. There’s one thing on any menu you always fall back on...even if it’s on the kids menu

Pizza, maybe. Chicken tenders, always.

5. Trying a new food is a very proud moment

It's like, wow! Look at me being all adventurous.

6. When you realize you actually like some new food, that’s an even more amazing moment

Crazy times. This rarely happens.

7. Sometimes it’s the texture, sometimes it’s the flavor, all the time it’s left on your plate

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Stop Being So Sensitive About EVERYTHING... #SorryNotSorry

Be mad, I honestly don't care.


Kevin Hart's jokes about homosexuality and Ellen's remarks supporting him. Trump making just about any comment he makes. Kendal Jenner's proactive commercial. Football players kneeling for the National Anthem. Seeing something on Twitter and sending it to a friend to complain about.

Did any of these things come off as insensitive to you? Were you offended or bothered by any of these people's comments? Stop being so fucking sensitive.

Are you bothered? Was that too harsh for you? I don't know what really happened in our society, but it's like a switch was flipped and speaking your mind become a taboo.

Kids are overly sensitive, their parents are easily offended, and it's starting an ongoing cycle of people who take things way too seriously or are just looking for something to get mad about.

When you look for something to get mad about, you're going to find it.

Why can't we look for things to be happy about? It's so much easier for us to be mad and think the world is against us, so we look to blame others for making us feel the way that we do.

Apparently, having an opinion and cracking a joke has become offensive. When you go after someone being blunt and having their opinion, you're just letting it show that you can't handle anyone disagreeing with you.

People need to accept the fact that not everyone is going to agree with you and you aren't going to agree with everyone. Honestly, if you want your opinion to get more notice, you should present them as bluntly as possible. Want to know why? Because people are just looking for something to be mad about and are going to really flare up if they feel you were too harsh.

Have your opinions and viewpoints and stand by them, regardless of whether people are too sensitive to hear them or not. We shouldn't have to sugarcoat everything for everyone all of the time.

Be unapologetically yourself.

Stop being mad at people on Twitter who you don't even know and be more focused on the people who are actually in your life. When someone makes a joke, they are joking. They are joking about a certain topic because they think that whatever that topic may be has now become normalized so people shouldn't be offended by it.

When you sit at home and joke with your family and friends, you get personal. You get personal with your jokes because everyone understands it's a joke. It's a joke. It's a joke. It's a joke. Stop being offended by jokes.

There is literally no purpose to it other than you looking for something to be irritated about. Stop making people feel the need to apologize for being lighthearted and honest. If you are comfortable and confident in yourself, when someone jokes about you it shouldn't bother you. Making people feel bad about something they didn't mean as an insult is pointless because they're only apologizing to make you feel good about yourself. Just already feel good about yourself and be strong in that!

People are bullies and troublemakers in your life because you let them be. You can't be pushed around if you don't move when they push you. What I mean by that is, stop being so bothered about what other people think of you and just be bothered about things that actually matter to you.

It's okay to laugh at yourself! If someone comes up to me cracking jokes about me, most likely I'm going to join in because I know its a joke. A bully and someone joking are two completely different people though. When someone is joking, you know they are. Stop turning it into something bigger than it is.

Careless about people who don't bring you anything but a bad attitude and argument. Stop apologizing for being blunt and speaking your mind. We don't have to sugar-coat everything for everyone all the time.

Realize that sometimes, jokes are funny and that's all there is to it. If we can't laugh at ourselves, then we are taking life way too seriously.

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