While in school, you are often on a schedule that means you regularly see your friends at some point in the day, so texting each other to meet up or hang out isn't really necessary. But when summertime comes around, it’s a different story. What about the friends from your hometown? What about those friends that you said you would never let go of?
Maybe the distance, physically and emotionally, will make the bond between you two stronger and make you long for each other, or maybe it’ll be what erodes the friendship.
Distance. A thing that is used to describe how close or how far you are from something. It is said that distance makes the heart grow fonder. But does it really? What if it does the opposite? What if you grow fond-LESS? I know that's not a word, but you catch my drift.
Let me just set the scene. It’s summer, and you’re grinding. Everyone you know is grinding trying to make money for the upcoming school year. But you're also having fun whenever you can. You Snaphat everything, posting all your summer adventures on your story, and everything is perfect. You’re making money, having fun and making memories, but the thing that’s missing are those one or two friends you said you would never let go. You guys made a pact to be BFFL’s (best friends for life), but you haven’t talked in a few days. Despite that fact, everything is completely fine, and both of your lives are still going on.
One week passes, but it’s all good because you are such good friends. It’s nothing you two can’t handle. Two weeks pass, you each casually exchange words in a group message. Three weeks pass and you like each other’s pictures on Instagram, and that’s it. Four weeks and you have barely said anything to each other, but you both seem happy from what the other person sees on social media.
Obviously you miss the other person, but they seem completely content without you in their life. And you surprised yourself a little bit, because your life is completely fine without a person you thought you honestly couldn’t live without. But this is life, people come and go and as long as the time you had with that person was positive, you shouldn’t have any regrets.
So, this thing called distance, did it make the friendship stronger? Or did it give you the strength to see what you maybe didn’t want to see for a long time. By all means this doesn’t mean that the friendship between you is over, but maybe the need to see each other every day and keep each other updated on every significant and insignificant part of your life is no longer. And maybe you both just grew fond-less.
