A seemingly simple goal would be cutting out phone time to spend with those who matter to you. Time is precious and it matters how we spend the free time we get because often it is not enough. I don't want to spend my time attached to a screen in any form when it's not school/work related. In a time and age where we are constantly being asked to focus on the future while losing sight of the present, I want to choose the present. I want to appreciate each moment because that future is just an idea and is never guaranteed. I would argue I have gotten to the point where I became more comfortable with stress than enjoying a nice moment.
I am guilty of the ever-so-popular listening to music on my phone and having my phone in hand when walking around town. I look at my phone to pass time/not appear awkward when waiting and frequently check social media, email, and texts/snaps as the notifications pop up. I never used to be someone attached to my phone and often found myself going days without needing it but as I get older, I have to answer important calls, texts, and emails concerning my future. It is slowly becoming harder to put down the phone and disconnect. I am working to give myself times of the day where I don't look at my phone.
Here are some ways to destress that don't include your phone and will make your mind, body, and spirit happier in the long run:
1. Meditation
Leaving yourself time every morning to conceptualize what you want for the future and allow your mind to momentarily breath - even for just five minutes - before taking on the day can make the greatest difference. If you don't believe me, try it and actually allow yourself to commit. There is a reason extremely busy people make a habit of meditation and for why they are able to handle it all.
2. Get outside
For many, school or jobs have them seated at desks/cubicles looking at a computer for the majority of the day, and this naturally takes a toll on your satisfaction in life. Take time to get outside and connect with nature. It will clear your head, boost dopamine naturally, and when you do go back to work, allow you to be efficient.
3. Journal
Write down your daily thoughts, contemplations, worries, and dreams. Amazing things happen when you give yourself time to reflect on where you are and where you want to be. Also, reading back on old journals is really a time portal to who you once were and can show you how far you have come.
4. Work out routine
It's easy to make excuses for not working out on the regular, such as not having the time. Making time to do some form of physical exercise will help you deal with stress in a positive way, put you in a better mood, and work off frustration. Working out also improves confidence and become a healthy staple as over time the feeling associated with a great workout becomes addicting.
5. Music
Life without music wouldn't be much of a life at all. The addition of a great playlist/song helps with any otherwise mediocre task. You can make almost anything more relaxing/exciting by just adding the right music. I am currently listening to music right now as I write. It helps keep my motivation by adding an extra layer of positivity to anything I might have to accomplish for the day.
6. Cleaning
I know cleaning never sounds fun. However, another showcase of a task that can be improved with music. I put on some music, clean, and by the time I am done, there is a weight lifted off my shoulders for the week. I don't have to worry about clutter, knowing where things are, or if someone drops by for a quick hello. Lighting some candles and having a clean room is oddly one of the most satisfying/accomplished feelings when attempting to reduce stress.
