If you are reading this, then I can guarantee you there is something in your life that is stressing you out, or has gone wrong. Don't be afraid to admit it: we all have challenges in our life, and one of the first steps to overcoming them is recognizing them! But the thing that sucks? Having to overcome it. Usually when something negative -- like a breakup, a lousy job, thoughts about the future, or school stress comes on your plate, this is what you look like.
We've all been there. I hate the feeling of not wanting to try. I hate the feeling of being so stressed that I just want to give up, or that I think less of myself because something has gone wrong.
This is where we need to stop. Struggle after struggle will come your way and, ultimately, you will handle each one differently. What makes a "struggle" so hard is that we are encountering something we aren't used to. There is no consistency or substance in what we are going through, so we naturally shy away and feel stressed.
But, when we are used to things everything seems easier. Change (and especially emotional change) can wreak havoc on our life. So, here's a life tip! Give yourself some consistency for every hard time you face. Remind yourself of a very important quality to maintain: character! Character: the mental and moral qualities distinctive to an individual.
If there is anything we try to fight for, it would have to be the fight to become and remain strong. No one wants to be weak during hard times! But, ask yourself: what is strength? What would you say? While answers would vary, I'd say most people would stumble on it. You have an idea of what it is, but do you really know how to be strong?
In my opinion, the strongest anyone could be is themselves. When going through a challenging time, you are the one who knows how to get through it.
Sure, its okay to be upset about stuff, to post "open letters," and to have broken emotions. But, maintaining your character through all times, bad and good, is being true to yourself.
When you have character your hard times won't change you in a negative way; you will set a standard of behavior for yourself, you will discover your limitations and grow for future challenges, and, most importantly, you will be strong.
"A man or woman who, despite any challenge thrown at them, can remain in their disciplined and given emotions is steadfast and cannot be moved by anything." Let this serve as a simple, friendly reminder: the next time you feel stressed, continue to find yourself in that process. Finding yourself is the greatest thing you could do!
If a hard time lets you learn more about your true character, then it's a hard time well spent.
You rock!
