You know that partner who does absolutely nothing for the project, but still receives a good grade for all of the hard work the other person does? That’s a side chick. Reaping the benefits of a relationship without actually putting in the work for it. And that’s why side chicks are becoming such a big deal. This generation of women would much rather take the easy route instead of settling down and sticking it out in a functional, serious relationship.
“What does a woman gain from being a side chick?” you might ask. Some may argue that being a side chick isn’t a very attractive option, and that women take the back seat to the main woman in a man’s life. But in this case, it’s all about perspective. While some may see it as coming second, some women see it as coming first without ever having to run the race.
Nine times out of 10, the side chick knows of the man’s current relationship. And more often than not, she is the shoulder to cry on, the therapist he confides in when he is having relationship issues. One of the most appealing aspects of being a side chick is not having to worry about the arguments. Since the man often comes to the side chick to complain about the issues he’s having in his main relationship, the side chick generally experiences the “good side.” The man often visits the side chick when he needs relief from his main relationship, or when he needs a breath of fresh air. The side chick is like dessert after he’s eaten a plate full of his least favorite vegetables. Essentially, she puts herself in a stress-free situation.
In addition to an argument free zone, the side chick gets as much space as she wants. Since the man she is involved with spends most of his time trying to please his girlfriend and make sure she suspects nothing, the side chick is allotted more time to spend by herself or to become involved with other men. She has no obligations to the man she is involved with, and to anyone else, either. That saying -- “have your cake and eat it, too” definitely applies, here.
Lastly, being a side chick gives women a perfect excuse to use when the question, “Why can’t I have a real relationship” pops up late at night while lying alone. It’s much easier to fool yourself into believing that the only reason the man won’t be with you is because he was already in a relationship. And that’s partially true. But what the side chick fails to see is that by settling to be a side chick, she has essentially told a man that she doesn’t require loyalty, respect, or exclusivity to be kept. By failing to realize her own worth and to demand what she wants in a relationship, and settling for a situation-ship, the side chick has doomed herself to temporary happiness, lower self-esteem, and no real relationship.
Is being the side chick really the better option?
