It’s no secret that the dating world today is full of hook-ups, lies, cheating, pettiness, and drama. Lots and lots of drama.

I hear all kinds of stories about awful relationships, people betraying one another, people giving themselves to others who hurt them time and time again. And the more I hear stories like this, the more people justify them. “Oh that’s just the way they are. That’s how it works nowadays”.

But why?

If that’s “how it works” then count me out. Being trustworthy and loyal is not an option anymore. It’s expected that when you start dating someone, you have to say bye to all your other friends or friends of the opposite sex. You are expected to hand your phone over them and tell them every detail of your life because it is normal. When you enter into a relationship the popular expectation is no privacy.

People settle.

They settle for others and they settle for the person they have let society turn them into. It’s a pretty foreign concept that a guy should hold the door open for a girl. Actually, the whole idea of chivalry is foreign. People are supposed to do everything themselves. No one can help them with anything and if they get help, then they aren’t independent enough.

Honestly, the modern dating world is extremely concerning to me because of these factors. We need to get some of that old-fashioned dating back.

Yes, we know you can open the door up on your own. I’ve been doing it for twenty years. And yeah, you can probably drive yourself to a destination. But isn’t there something so sweet and thoughtful about another person holding the door open for you? Isn’t there something so special about the butterflies you get when you’re waiting for your date to come to your front door to take you out? And wouldn’t you feel so secure if you didn’t feel like you had to check his/her phone?

Wouldn’t you love to be able to be trusted to see other friends and not report to someone 24/7 because they knew you were loyal? Let’s not forget how nice it would feel if there wasn’t any pressure to do anything physical on the first date and you simply got to know that person.

I know this all sounds great and you are probably thinking, “Yeah, but people just aren’t like that anymore”. You see, that’s when I decide to have faith. I have faith that there are still people like this. People that date the right way.

The problem is too many people settle for less than they deserve and too many people settle for a different version of themselves.

This makes it hard to have a healthy relationship when everyone wants to settle for less. So please, if there is any part of you that wants things to be different, have faith and don’t settle for less than what you deserve. If we let society convince us that we don’t deserve better than a broken relationship, then society wins. And that’s something I cannot settle for.