Why I am the "F" Word

Why I am the "F" Word

Feminism is not a taboo, and benefits everyone.

1. I am still scared of walking through parking lots in the evening because no matter the circumstance, if I get raped, I can almost guarantee someone will say that "I put myself in a compromising situation" as opposed to "What kind of person would ever think they have the right to invade someone else's skin".

2. The term RBF has been coined simply because women are not smiling, endearing, and happy looking all the time. Newsflash, I am not here to be pretty for you. I am here to do my job. I am grocery shopping. I am walking to class. Stop telling me to smile, because I know you won't say that to the man you do not know behind me.

3. Every time I respond to someone's lewd comment about my body that is screamed out of the side of a truck, I instantly feel the need to run and hide because I am instantly terrified that I will be killed. Screaming about my breasts out of a truck is not a compliment, saying "nice" as I walk by is not a compliment, following me to my destination is not a compliment.

4. If I make the decision to have children and not stay home, I am seen as selfish, or told that I will change my mind later on. If I decide to have children and stay home to take care of the kids, I am called old-fashioned.

5. Whenever I am in a leadership role, I can almost always attribute at least one person who will have issues with me and my leadership style solely because I am a girl.

6. When I went through sex ed, I was taught that I would lose a part of who I am and forever be changed because I had sex, and that how valuable I am is inversely proportional to how many people I slept with.

7. I am a feminist because Brock Turner still walks the streets, and his own father dismissed the rape he committed as "twenty minutes of action".

8. I am a feminist because if a woman decides to breastfeed in front of a Victoria's Secret store, people will still claim they are uncomfortable. As if feeding a child is wrong, but selling burgers with breasts is okay?

9. In the United States, abortions are increasingly harder to get, affordable birth control in ALL forms might be taken away, and yet women are still shamed for being on welfare with their children.

10. The group of people helping decide number ten (i.e. Congress) is 80% male.

*If you need fifty more reasons that Feminism is a movement for all, women, men, trans, black, white, Asian, non-binary people, check out this link: WHY I'M A...FEMINIST *gasp*

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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

The best kind of long-distance relationship.

Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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The Disrespectful Nature Of My Generation Needs To Stop

Why choosing phone games over a Holocaust survivor was my breaking point.


While many students that attended Holocaust survivor Hershel Greenblat's talk were rightfully attentive, I noticed, out of the corner of my eye, a few outlier students tapping away on their phones. They were minute movements, but inappropriate nonetheless.

Immediately I became infuriated. How, I thought, fuming, did my generation become so blithely unaware to the point where we could not proffer basic respect to a survivor of one of the most horrific events in human history?

Perhaps the students were just texting their parents, telling them that the event would run a bit long. 10 minutes later, my eyes diverted from Greenblat back to the students. They were still on their phones. This time, I could see the screens being held horizontally—indicating a game or a show was being played. I wanted to get up, smack the distractions out of their hands, and ask them why they thought what they were doing was more important than a Holocaust speaker.

I will not waste any more time writing about the disrespectful few. Because they could not give Greenblat the time of their day, I will not give them mine. Instead, I want to focus on a massive trend my generation has mistakenly indulged ourselves in.

The Greenblat incident is only an example of this phenomenon I find so confusing. From young, it was instilled in me, probably via Chinese tradition, that elders should be respected. It is a title only revoked when unacceptable behavior allows it to be, and is otherwise maintained. I understand that not everybody comes from a background where respect is automatically granted to people. And I see that side of the story.

Why does age automatically warrant respect? It is the fact that they have made it this far, and have interesting stories to tell. There are exceptions, perhaps more than there are inclusions.

But this fact can be determined by the simple act of offering an elderly person your seat on public transportation. Sure, it can be for their health, but within that simple act is a meaningful sacrifice for somebody who has experienced more than you.

Age aside, at Greenblat's talk, majority of the disrespect shown might not have been agist. Instead, it could have been the behavior students just there for the check-in check-out extra credit that multiple classes and clubs were offering. While my teachers who advertised the event stressed the importance of attendance not just for the academic boost, but for the experience, I knew that some of the more distracted students there must have been those selfish, ignorant, solely academic driven cockalorums.

I stay hopeful because majority of my classmates were attentive. We knew to put aside our Chromebooks, regardless of note-taking, and simply listen to what Greenblat had to offer.

It would be wrong to label my generation as entitled— that's a misnomer for the generation before. We are still wavering between the line of automatic respect and earned respect, but we need to set a line for people whom we know the stories of. Especially a Holocaust survivor.

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