Why I am the "F" Word

Why I am the "F" Word

Feminism is not a taboo, and benefits everyone.

1. I am still scared of walking through parking lots in the evening because no matter the circumstance, if I get raped, I can almost guarantee someone will say that "I put myself in a compromising situation" as opposed to "What kind of person would ever think they have the right to invade someone else's skin".

2. The term RBF has been coined simply because women are not smiling, endearing, and happy looking all the time. Newsflash, I am not here to be pretty for you. I am here to do my job. I am grocery shopping. I am walking to class. Stop telling me to smile, because I know you won't say that to the man you do not know behind me.

3. Every time I respond to someone's lewd comment about my body that is screamed out of the side of a truck, I instantly feel the need to run and hide because I am instantly terrified that I will be killed. Screaming about my breasts out of a truck is not a compliment, saying "nice" as I walk by is not a compliment, following me to my destination is not a compliment.

4. If I make the decision to have children and not stay home, I am seen as selfish, or told that I will change my mind later on. If I decide to have children and stay home to take care of the kids, I am called old-fashioned.

5. Whenever I am in a leadership role, I can almost always attribute at least one person who will have issues with me and my leadership style solely because I am a girl.

6. When I went through sex ed, I was taught that I would lose a part of who I am and forever be changed because I had sex, and that how valuable I am is inversely proportional to how many people I slept with.

7. I am a feminist because Brock Turner still walks the streets, and his own father dismissed the rape he committed as "twenty minutes of action".

8. I am a feminist because if a woman decides to breastfeed in front of a Victoria's Secret store, people will still claim they are uncomfortable. As if feeding a child is wrong, but selling burgers with breasts is okay?

9. In the United States, abortions are increasingly harder to get, affordable birth control in ALL forms might be taken away, and yet women are still shamed for being on welfare with their children.

10. The group of people helping decide number ten (i.e. Congress) is 80% male.

*If you need fifty more reasons that Feminism is a movement for all, women, men, trans, black, white, Asian, non-binary people, check out this link: WHY I'M A...FEMINIST *gasp*

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

SEE ALSO: To The Girls Who Float Between Friend Groups

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Big Slick KC: The Importance Behind Celebrities Coming Together in Kansas City

This annual event is one of my favorite things to attend, and it's the 10th year, so it deserves recognition.


Every year since 2010, Big Slick KC has been a huge event held in Kansas City, Missouri, where celebrities from our favorite shows and movies come together for one weekend to raise money for Children's Mercy Hospital.

The hosts of Big Slick are none other than Paul Rudd, Eric Stonestreet, Jason Sudeikis, Rob Riggle, and David Koechner. Every year, they invite around 40 celebrities to participate in the weekend's events.

This year had some big names like Selena Gomez, Olivia Wilde, Zachary Levi, Haley Joel Osment, Patrick Mahomes of the Kansas City Chiefs, and many more. Each year they try to bring in new people, while also having some Big Slick veterans return.

The busy and wonderful weekend starts out with the celebrities all coming in and visiting the children at Children's Mercy Hospital, spending time with them and taking pictures. I think it's amazing how they take the time to actually get to know some of the kids that they are raising the money for.

After that, the celebrities head to Kauffman Stadium, break up into two teams, and face-off in a not-so-serious softball game before the Royals game. Each celebrity gets their own signature Royals jersey and they play a few innings. They also come out again and sing "Take Me Out to the Ballgame" for the seventh-inning stretch.

The next morning, the celebrities all make their way to the Pinstripes bowling alley in Overland Park, where they are greeted by hundreds of awaiting fans.

After the children of Children's Mercy are introduced and walk along the red carpet with their parents, the celebrities follow, taking pictures and signing autographs along the way. They head inside and bowl with the children from the hospital.

That night, the celebrities all come together one last time to host a huge party, this year it was at the Sprint Center, where they all just perform and have a good time. They also host an auction where some pretty cool items and opportunities are auctioned off.

Besides just being a fun event to attend and a good way to see some of your favorite celebrities up close, Big Slick is just so important because of its cause.

This year, Big Slick KC raised around $2.5 million for Children's Mercy Hospital. That brings the total to over $10 million that Big Slick has raised since 2010.

This amazing weekend is always so much fun, not just because some big stars come to a fly over state, but because of the children that they are raising the money for. The hosts and the celebrities that attend all care so much about the cause, and they make a great weekend out of it for anyone who attends.

I'm already looking forward to next year's exciting weekend.

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