I can't speak for other women, but for me, a little effort goes a long way. I personally prefer for a guy to approach me and ask for my number, rather than send his friend to do it.
It seems today that the millennial generation has lost touch with the value of true and loving relationship. Emotions have become a sign of weakness. To be in a monogamous relationship is equivalent to wearing the scarlet letter. I’m all for playing the field and weighing out options, but there is nothing wrong with being considerate of other's feelings, especially when there is the potential for romantic involvement.
The television show "A Different World" displayed the model of young love for college-age students for almost a decade. It featured a diverse group of characters that face the same romantic obstacles as many of us. Although the show had multiple story lines, the most prominent one was that of cool-guy Dwayne Wayne and southern belle Whitley Gilbert. I happen to be a sucker for a sappy love story, so of course I’m rooting for the underdog. However, it didn’t take long to realize that Dwayne Wayne was not the underdog, but the alpha. He was committed to being with Whitley.
He never let the comments of his friends stop him from chasing
his girl. More than anything, he was not afraid to tell her how he felt on
several occasions. I always stop and think, now what if Dwayne had chosen ‘swag’
over Whitley? What if he had listened to Ron and believed Whitley was out of
his league and stopped trying?
We were not given a Ron, but social media instead. It is our blockade. Social Media
strips the intimacy from relationships. It gives people a tiny screen as a
shield and allows them to like a picture, and suddenly the magic is there. Rather
than looking into their eyes, people are able to type their way into love.
Allowing someone ‘slide into” DM’s removes the mystery and nervousness. More
than anything, it takes away the effort. We are no longer forced to come up
with corny pick-up lines and think on our feet. It’s easy to hide behind a
screen and send a message but it takes more courage to approach someone and ask
for a moment of their time. Call me insane, but I can’t imagine finding
anything of substance within 140 characters.
This TV show may be a completely different world from the one I live in and I get that rejection is a fear to most, but I do expect to be approached physically rather than electronically. I know that my expectations are not bizarre. At the very least, they are the bare minimum. Besides, Whitley would never have accepted a DM from Dwayne, so why would I ?
