When Your Best Friend Is Your One-In-A-Million

When Your Best Friend Is Your One-In-A-Million

It is rare to find a friend who is more than a friend--but a sister, a soulmate, and the one person you'd never want to give up.

Growing up I had a very difficult time making friends. It wasn't until I was nineteen we figured out one of the major reasons why. I was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome, which had just been renamed in the DSM as an Autism Spectrum Disorder. I am high-functioning and now that I am 23-years-old, it is almost impossible to tell from people on the outside of my inner circle. I have struggled my entire life to find people who understand my crazy, beautiful and chaotic life. To say I have abandonment issues from every side of the coin is an understatement. When I met Cary, my life was forever changed. She is not just my best friend--she is my soulmate, my sister, and the reason I believe in everything that I do.

We met in March of 2005. We at that time were the same person, but we were raised so differently that we both became a product of our environments. I stood up for her at every turn, even when she wished I wouldn't. But it was what I was taught to do. I was taught to stand up for those who were incapable of doing it themselves.

It's been twelve years, and she is still here. We have had our ups and our downs, but she at the end of the day is the one person I talk to. She is the person I discuss every part of my life with. I ask her opinion on my clothes, my hair, the potential relationships I consider entering into. I trust her and her judgment, and I also want her approval. She knows me and loves me--and she knows when someone is unworthy of me.

I have never withheld something from her. She has done the same. When we fight, there is always a moment where we both think "This is it, our friendship is over." Five minutes later one of us is calling the other, sobbing uncontrollably and begging for forgiveness, apologizing over and over again, and then we laugh and say: "We are never doing that again!"

Growing up down the street together may have made it easier for us, and to me, I think that was a blessing in disguise. I don't know what I'd do without her, and when people ask me how lucky I am to have such a good friend who bends over backward for me, I tell them: "I'm not lucky, I am blessed."

Cary taught me so many things, and I have done the same for her. She gave me the courage to find faith in God, and she stood by me as I struggled to find it. She has stayed at my bedside when I was stuck there, so sick it could be thought I would die if I fell asleep.

She prays for me, and always had--even when I hated it. My mother once told me: "I wish I had what you have with Cary--I thought I did, but circumstances change. People change. You and Cary are one in a million--to find one friend like that is a miracle and I am so thankful you have each other." I am too.

We've been through thick and thin, we've pulled each other from rock bottom and held each other up when we could barely stand. We argue because we care so deeply for the other, and we will continue to do so.

This week she will be turning 20-years-old. In the fall she'll be starting her Sophmore year at UIW in San Antonio. To say I am proud would be an understatement.

From the time I have met her and to this day it is unbelievable to see the amount of growth she has endured. But I knew she would make it, and because of her, I know I'll make it too.

Cary, sis--I love you. And I am glad God put us in the same place at the right time, because our friendship is one-in-a-million. I wouldn't trade anything in the world.

Cover Image Credit: Victoria F. and Cary S.

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College As Told By Junie B. Jones

A tribute to the beloved author Barbara Parks.

The Junie B. Jones series was a big part of my childhood. They were the first chapter books I ever read. On car trips, my mother would entertain my sister and me by purchasing a new Junie B. Jones book and reading it to us. My favorite part about the books then, and still, are how funny they are. Junie B. takes things very literally, and her (mis)adventures are hilarious. A lot of children's authors tend to write for children and parents in their books to keep the attention of both parties. Barbara Park, the author of the Junie B. Jones series, did just that. This is why many things Junie B. said in Kindergarten could be applied to her experiences in college, as shown here.

When Junie B. introduces herself hundreds of times during orientation week:

“My name is Junie B. Jones. The B stands for Beatrice. Except I don't like Beatrice. I just like B and that's all." (Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, p. 1)

When she goes to her first college career fair:

"Yeah, only guess what? I never even heard of that dumb word careers before. And so I won't know what the heck we're talking about." (Junie B. Jones and her Big Fat Mouth, p. 2)

When she thinks people in class are gossiping about her:

“They whispered to each other for a real long time. Also, they kept looking at me. And they wouldn't even stop." (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 66)

When someone asks her about the library:

“It's where the books are. And guess what? Books are my very favorite things in the whole world!" (Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, p. 27)

When she doesn't know what she's eating at the caf:

“I peeked inside the bread. I stared and stared for a real long time. 'Cause I didn't actually recognize the meat, that's why. Finally, I ate it anyway. It was tasty...whatever it was." (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 66)

When she gets bored during class:

“I drew a sausage patty on my arm. Only that wasn't even an assignment." (Junie B. Jones Loves Handsome Warren, p. 18)

When she considers dropping out:

“Maybe someday I will just be the Boss of Cookies instead!" (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 76)

When her friends invite her to the lake for Labor Day:

“GOOD NEWS! I CAN COME TO THE LAKE WITH YOU, I BELIEVE!" (Junie B. Jones Smells Something Fishy, p. 17)

When her professor never enters grades on time:

“I rolled my eyes way up to the sky." (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 38)

When her friends won't stop poking her on Facebook:

“Do not poke me one more time, and I mean it." (Junie B. Jones Smells Something Fishy, p. 7)

When she finds out she got a bad test grade:

“Then my eyes got a little bit wet. I wasn't crying, though." (Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, p. 17)

When she isn't allowed to have a pet on campus but really wants one:


When she has to walk across campus in the dark:

“There's no such thing as monsters. There's no such thing as monsters." (Junie B. Jones Has a Monster Under Her Bed, p. 12)

When her boyfriend breaks her heart:

“I am a bachelorette. A bachelorette is when your boyfriend named Ricardo dumps you at recess. Only I wasn't actually expecting that terrible trouble." (Junie B. Jones Is (almost) a Flower Girl, p. 1)

When she paints her first canvas:

"And painting is the funnest thing I love!" (Junie B. Jones and her Big Fat Mouth, p. 61)

When her sorority takes stacked pictures:

“The biggie kids stand in the back. And the shortie kids stand in the front. I am a shortie kid. Only that is nothing to be ashamed of." (Junie B. Jones Has a Monster Under Her Bed, p. 7)

When she's had enough of the caf's food:

“Want to bake a lemon pie? A lemon pie would be fun, don't you think?" (Junie B. Jones Has a Monster Under Her Bed p. 34)

When she forgets about an exam:

“Speechless is when your mouth can't speech." (Junie B. Jones Loves Handsome Warren, p. 54)

When she finds out she has enough credits to graduate:

“A DIPLOMA! A DIPLOMA! I WILL LOVE A DIPLOMA!" (Junie B. Jones is a Graduation Girl p. 6)

When she gets home from college:

"IT'S ME! IT'S JUNIE B. JONES! I'M HOME FROM MY SCHOOL!" (Junie B. Jones and some Sneaky Peaky Spying p. 20)

Cover Image Credit: OrderOfBooks

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Better Not Bitter

"Let your past make you better, not bitter."


After completing my junior year at Iowa State, I have found myself reflecting on a lot of the experiences and people who have helped me get to the point I am at today. Family obviously comes to mind, followed by my friends, my sorority sisters, my boyfriend, my professors, and my mentors. I am able to contribute a lot of my success to their support and compassion that they have shown me throughout my past three years. I am also able to contribute my success to the woman I have grown to be and to the woman I have always wanted to be. You see, three years ago, the woman I was was buried in a toxic relationship that didn't allow me to flourish into the woman I was striving to be.

Let me take a step back, this article is not meant to bash the person who it is about. In fact, it's more of a thank you. Because you see, without him letting go of me, I would have never taken the leaps and bounds out of my comfort zone to become the woman I am so damn proud to be today. This is also not meant to say that I am I glad I was in such a toxic relationship, it was honestly so terrible that I wouldn't wish it upon anyone but I am in fact, thankful. I learned more from that relationship that I have in anything else in my life.

First, I learned to be a fighter, and not in a bad way. I learned to stand up for myself and what I believe in. I have become vocal about my passions and stand up for people when they are treated wrong. I no longer let people walk all over me, but rather I stand my ground firmly and confidently. Thank you.

Second, I learned to be fierce. Fierce in love, kindness, compassion, and willpower. I believe in my abilities and the things I am able to accomplish if I set my mind to something. I have learned that in being fierce, there is absolutely no time to doubt myself which has worked greatly in my favor. I learned that demanding respect in all relationships I have formed has been about me making the decision to make myself a priority and learning to never settle for any less than I deserve, ever again. Thank you.

Third, I learned compassion. I learned to be kind to the other woman, and mostly, to the person who chose to hurt me. It took everything in me to remain kind while I was being hurt, but I am so thankful that I stayed true to the values and morals I was raised on. I have carried this with me throughout the past three years by choosing to show compassion to all people around me, and looking deeper into the reasons behind the actions and decisions that people make. Often times there is something going on behind closed doors and because of that, it is important to always, always radiate kindness. Thank you.

I wanted to extend my gratitude to the person who hurt me because if you hadn't, I wouldn't be the badass, boss girl, powerful woman that I am today. I am confident, smart, loving, and fully capable of giving and receiving the kindest, most sincere kind of love. My life has changed for the better, and I wouldn't change a single thing. I wish you the best, because let me tell ya, it feels great.

By the way, if you ever feel like you deserve better than what you're receiving in a relationship, trust your gut & walk the hell away. It's worth it.

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