Everyone has experienced death in some sense throughout their life. In the past couple of years, I have lost some of the most amazing people. I have learned so much more about death in my short 22 years than I think a lot of people learn in their lifetime. Watching someone go through grieving is a lot different than when you're going through your own grieving.
There is so much you can say to someone, but it will never be enough. There is a void in their life that will never be filled. I learned this when I lost my best friend and my aunt within the same year. I always thought "it's never going to happen to me" "I'm never going to go through that", but the harsh reality is, that you are going to at some point or another.
I have learned that the best way to go about losing the people you love, is to never think of the things "you could have done". Your loved one does not want you to feel guilty, they do not want you to feel like there was something you could do to save them because there isn't. I am a true believer in everything happening for a reason. This is definitely one of the hardest things to get through but when you see that light you will be able to breathe.
Believe that they are there, because they are. Every moment that you wish they were there for, just know that they are there, watching you and thinking about how proud they are of you. A lot of people don't believe in feeling your loved ones, but if you open your heart and mind you will feel them with you when you need them. They get to have the best seat in the house watching you through your ups and downs. Just because you cannot see them does not mean that they are not there. You need to believe that just because they have passed away doesn't mean they are gone.
The hardest pill to swallow is the fact that you might not have the chance to say goodbye. Unfortunately, life happens and you don't get the chance to tell them you love them. So as you move forward, tell everyone how you feel about them. Never be afraid to speak your mind and tell the people you love that you love them. If I have learned anything from losing the people I love its that you should never take a moment for granted.
Sometimes tomorrow doesn't come, a heart stops, your world is with one less person but you have to keep moving forward. You have to live for the people who aren't with us anymore. You have to get up every morning and live for them because they would never want you to struggle. Grief is one of the toughest emotions to overcome. But when you think of the happy times, bring loved ones together and live your life every day like it's your last. I promise you will feel better.
As you move forward please always remember, life is too short, live every single day like it's your last and tell the people you love that you love them.
