When Things Don't Turn Out The Way You Want

When Things Don't Turn Out The Way You Want

Everything happens for a reason.

This past week, I did the unthinkable. I literally walked up to the guy I have been crushing on and said, “hey, I like you.” (There’s a chance he’s reading this, so hey, sorry you are reliving this now.) Where did I get that confidence, you ask? I am honestly as clueless as you on that. Awkwardness erupted when he didn’t muster a word back. So what did good ole Demi do? Replies with “have a nice day” and walks off. In case you haven’t caught on to the theme yet, I am really good at embarrassing myself- I don’t need someone else’s assistance to do that. Later that night, he asked if we could meet up and talk. (Hallelujah. Things would be really uncomfortable had we left it at the first encounter.)

We set up a time and place and discussed in depth why he wasn’t interested in me. His reasoning was certainly understandable, but you know, I still had to root for myself. So I did. I found a joking (but true) answer for every problem he mentioned in a “you aren’t getting off this easily” way. As the night went on, we discussed our future plans, our families and past, and what made us decide our career paths. We had a natural flow of conversation (at least, I thought we did), and everything (to me) felt so right and comfortable. So of course, once again, I had to root for myself and think that I had a chance still. (I’m really stubborn.)

After parting ways, I texted him to thank him for being a good sport about things, and while I was on the subject, I asked him if I stood a chance or if I should just let the idea go. Here goes the plot twist… He told me that honestly, I should let it go, and at one in the morning, I was crushed. Here is how stubborn I still was. I waited patiently for another text to read something between the lines of “just kidding”, but that text never came through. I thanked him for his honesty and we ended the conversation, just like that.

(Thanks for reading that super long story.)

Obviously, things didn’t turn out the way I had hoped. I thought I was getting this desire of my heart that I had been praying so long for. I thought it was my turn at a relationship. But it wasn’t. Considering how recent this just happened, I don’t know how encouraging the advice I give will really be.

I like to think that everything happens for a reason. It is seriously my life motto. I want to think that the outcome is going to change, but I am learning to accept the fact that it’s not going to. God see’s a bigger plan than I do. While I want to feel pity for myself and have a major cry fest, He already has a bigger purpose in the making. My roommate and best friend told me recently, “Demi, stop trying to be God. You would make a sucky God, so just stop. Let Him be Him and you be you.” That’s what I want to do. Maybe this week happened to teach me something from God, or maybe I tried to be my own God and did this damage to myself.

Recently at my home church, we had a sermon on 1 Samuel 8: 19-22. In this passage, the Israelites decide they want an earthly king instead of their heavenly king. Instead of God condemning them, they end up condemning themselves. God granted them their worldly desire, which in turn, led to their own self-destruction eternally.

I am wondering if maybe God didn’t give me the guy that I wanted for this reason. He didn’t want to give me my worldly desire because He is trying to save me from the path of self-destruction that the Israelites faced. Maybe He does want me to be with this guy but not at this time. Maybe, He wants me to focus more on Him for now to prepare my heart for what’s to lie ahead.

So whether I get the guy or don’t, it’s okay. God has a plan far better than mine. When things don’t turn out the way we had hoped, the best thing to do is to turn to your heavenly Father and say “God, I understand this is your plan. Don’t let me mess it up, but instead, give me an open and accepting heart to what it is.”

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It's the little things in life.

It is always easier to pick out the negatives in life. We tend to dwell on them and drown out the happy moments. I asked a friend to tell me something that made them happy. They sarcastically laughed at my question then thought about it for a minute. Nothing. But they could easily come up with things that made them unhappy. Then I read them my list, and they were smiling and laughing in agreement the whole time. There are so many more things to be happy and laugh about than we realize. After all- it's the little things in life that can mean the most! Here are 50 things that make me happy. What are your 50?

  1. The first warm day of the year
  2. Laughing so hard your abs ache
  3. Freshly washed sheets
  4. Looking through old pictures
  5. The smell of a coffee shop
  6. Eating cookie dough
  7. Reading a bible verse that perfectly fits your current situation
  8. Seeing someone open a gift you got them
  9. Eating birthday cake
  10. A shower after a long day
  11. Marking something off your to-do list
  12. Drinking ice cold water on a really hot day
  13. Dressing up for no reason
  14. Breakfast food
  15. Being able to lay in bed in the morning
  16. Finding something you love at the store
  17. And it’s on sale
  18. Cute elderly couples
  19. When a stranger compliments you
  20. Getting butterflies in your stomach
  21. Taking a nap
  22. Cooking something delicious
  23. Being lost for words
  24. Receiving a birthday card in the mail
  25. And there's money in it
  26. Finally cleaning your room
  27. Realizing how fortunate you are
  28. Waking up from a nightmare and realizing it wasn't real
  29. Fresh fruit
  30. Walking barefoot in the grass
  31. Singing along to a song in the car
  32. Sunrises
  33. Sunsets
  34. Freshly baked cookies with a glass of milk
  35. Summertime cookouts
  36. Feeling pretty
  37. Looking forward to something
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  40. Waking up in the middle of the night and realizing you have more time to sleep
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  43. The smell of popcorn
  44. Remembering something funny that happened
  45. Laughing to yourself about it
  46. Feeling weird about laughing to yourself
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  50. Feeling confident
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Whether You Believe In God Or Not, You Will Always Crave A Higher Power

No matter what you believe in, you have your own version of a "higher power."


What is it that you believe in?

We all believe in something, whether it's believing our favorite team is going to win that championship, or that global warming is upon us, or even that essential oils cure headaches. Whatever it may be, we have to believe in something, right?

From a young age, we believed in things such as the Tooth Fairy, or Santa Clause, or that a princess' world was a reality that we could obtain. We were taught to believe in things so far out there that we believed almost anything that we were told. But how about now?

What is it now that you believe in, truly? This world can be cruel, hateful, and even confusing. There's constantly an uproar on social media about he said she said and "that politician is doing what?". So, consequently, we've turned to something that will save us from this place.

Everyone wants something to save them and the only way to do that is to believe in something bigger than ourselves.

This is where the higher power comes in. There's the Christian faith and believing in God or other religions that have their own version of the same concept. There are beliefs in the Earth in forms of Mother Nature or The Universe. There is faith in Chakra healing and how different stones and rocks have certain energies as well as Astrology.

These all sound very different but, they all have one thing in common. Whatever is believed in is always a very loving, caring, and kind power. Its purpose is to guide us and give us the truth.

With how different each person is in today's society, we can all say that we believe in a Greater Love. People push and argue that their way is the right way when in reality, we all believe in pretty much the same concept. So instead of trying to put down someone's beliefs, try to understand it, because I'm sure it is not far off from yours in the grand scheme of things. I have what I believe in and you have what you believe in.

This isn't a piece on how different we all are, but instead, how similar we all can be. We just have to be accepting on all sides, so that we can all celebrate our likeness.

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