Everything in this life happens for a reason right? Sometimes what happens isn't fair, it's not right and it's simply just not what you want. You try to do something the way you want, but it just doesn't work. Sometimes this life is so frustrating. There's no answer to the things you crave the answer to the most. As I struggle to come to terms with the fact that 'my way or the highway' doesn't apply in reality, I'm starting to see why they don't work out the way we hope. They work out better.
Recently, I lost a really close friend of mine. I thought this relationship was going to be one of those that stick with you for a long time. I thought wrong which is OK. Hurtful but OK. It's hard getting your hopes up and then being let down. Through the tears and the heartbreak, I've started to see why the door closed on this relationship. God has a funny way of working in our lives. Although I have lost one of my best friends, the voided space in my heart has been filled with those friends whose friendships will last a long time. God removed something from my life that wasn't what I needed even though I thought I did. In any relationship, if you are being mistreated and are constantly belittled by the other person, God is telling you something. He's telling you this person is no longer able to see your worth and you deserve someone who does. He will remove the people who are not in it for the long run and send you those who are. He'll send you a new best friend or a new boyfriend/girlfriend who loves you and appreciates you. You deserve someone who asks you how your day is. Sometimes the best solution is to have faith and close that door.
"When one door closes, another one opens." I've heard these seven words more times than I can even count, and I've never really thought about them until now. When one opportunity is lost, there will always be another. It's disappointing and the road to healing is a long and hard one. Whether it's a lost relationship or a lost job, there will always be another open door down the road. It takes time for wounds to heal, but when you have those who are always there to open the next door with you, it helps. Keep your friends close during a time of loss, a time of heartbreak, or really anytime. Pray for guidance and strength.
As I wait for my new door to open, I'm going to work on myself, and I advise you to as well. Go to the gym, learn to paint, pick up a new hobby. There are a lot of things you can do to help the healing process. Opportunities come and go, but those who truly love you will stay. Don't be afraid to take chances and try new things; God is constantly telling you, 'do not be afraid.' If you walk with Him, you will not fail and you will be lead to your new open door.
"I wish I could tell you it gets better. It doesn't get better. You get better." - Joan Rivers
"Jesus replied, 'You do not realize what I am doing, but later you will understand.'" John 13:7
