When Your College Becomes Your Home
Start writing a post
Student Life

When Your College Becomes Your Home

After a while, school stops feeling like school and starts feeling more like home and home feels more like the place you go for holidays.

77
When Your College Becomes Your Home
College Bound Consulting

When you first leave home to go off to college, it's not uncommon to be homesick. Even though you are living somewhere new for the majority of the year, the place you go back to at Christmas and for the summer is still home.

But, after a while, you slowly stop saying "It's time to go back to school," when you're at home for the summer and classes are about to start. You instead find yourself saying "It's time to go back home."

College isn't just school anymore. It's where all of your best friends are. It's where 90 percent of your stuff is. It's where all your new memories are taking place. It feels more like your home than the place you go for holidays does.

I believe it is supposed to be this way.

You're on your own for the first time, learning how to be independent, it SHOULD become your home. It should feel like home. You should love it.

This flip-flop of where your "home" is doesn't happen abruptly. It's a slow change. It is signified by a few tell-tale signs.

1. The holidays you spend at home with family start to drag on.

Instead of feeling relieved to finally be back "home" you realize that you are mostly just missing school and can't wait to go back. You're starting to have withdrawals from your roommate and your perfectly decorated dorm room.

[rebelmouse-proxy-image https://media.rbl.ms/image?u=%2Ffiles%2F2016%2F07%2F16%2F636042535481047480223150169_Impatient.gif&ho=https%3A%2F%2Faz616578.vo.msecnd.net&s=559&h=3f70bbefbef5f0b3205ccc5dd59d1ebfa113b24ef7689e7cfd77a9582adaa852&size=980x&c=417104772 crop_info="%7B%22image%22%3A%20%22https%3A//media.rbl.ms/image%3Fu%3D%252Ffiles%252F2016%252F07%252F16%252F636042535481047480223150169_Impatient.gif%26ho%3Dhttps%253A%252F%252Faz616578.vo.msecnd.net%26s%3D559%26h%3D3f70bbefbef5f0b3205ccc5dd59d1ebfa113b24ef7689e7cfd77a9582adaa852%26size%3D980x%26c%3D417104772%22%7D" expand=1]

2. When talking to your dad about going back to school you experience a few accidental slips of the tongue.

Instead of telling him the date you go back to school you accidentally say "I go back home on ____" which, of course, causes him to make the most hurt face you've ever seen.

Whoops.

3. You start feeling kind of uncomfortable in your parents' house.

Of course it still feels homey and comforting, but more and more often you find yourself feeling more like a guest than a resident. Which, honestly, you kind of are at this point.

Your dorm is "your space," the bedroom at your parents house has probably become a sort of storage unit that they kindly left a bed in for you. You don't really feel like you belong there anymore.

[rebelmouse-proxy-image https://media.rbl.ms/image?u=%2Ffiles%2F2016%2F07%2F16%2F6360425406684682461882008492_tumblr_lntnlaTOAH1qbqrtb.gif&ho=https%3A%2F%2Faz616578.vo.msecnd.net&s=864&h=8e641047241e5e4c2e831d84c47689eb69b46835983c418ecf2d7d6d1df1bd8a&size=980x&c=2289739682 crop_info="%7B%22image%22%3A%20%22https%3A//media.rbl.ms/image%3Fu%3D%252Ffiles%252F2016%252F07%252F16%252F6360425406684682461882008492_tumblr_lntnlaTOAH1qbqrtb.gif%26ho%3Dhttps%253A%252F%252Faz616578.vo.msecnd.net%26s%3D864%26h%3D8e641047241e5e4c2e831d84c47689eb69b46835983c418ecf2d7d6d1df1bd8a%26size%3D980x%26c%3D2289739682%22%7D" expand=1]

4. You start finding more and more reasons to stay at school during breaks instead of going back home.

Maybe you and your friends are doing a "friendsgiving," you get an internship for the summer or all of your friends just happen to want to stay on campus together during spring break.

[rebelmouse-proxy-image https://media.rbl.ms/image?u=%2Ffiles%2F2016%2F07%2F16%2F6360425456788552761223791939_such-busy.gif&ho=https%3A%2F%2Faz616578.vo.msecnd.net&s=2&h=6997ab5f3ece8552402ae89eba880b5c883c970400ed6efe8412f3ef9bde8533&size=980x&c=528796875 crop_info="%7B%22image%22%3A%20%22https%3A//media.rbl.ms/image%3Fu%3D%252Ffiles%252F2016%252F07%252F16%252F6360425456788552761223791939_such-busy.gif%26ho%3Dhttps%253A%252F%252Faz616578.vo.msecnd.net%26s%3D2%26h%3D6997ab5f3ece8552402ae89eba880b5c883c970400ed6efe8412f3ef9bde8533%26size%3D980x%26c%3D528796875%22%7D" expand=1]

5. Eventually, even your parents start referring to school as your home.

They tried not to give in at first. Their home was going to remain your home in their eyes for as long as possible. But eventually they couldn't deny that college had become a deeply loved place for you and they realize that the place you live for the majority of the year is pretty much undeniably your home now.

***

College becoming your home doesn't mean you don't still get homesick. No matter how much you feel at home in your dorm, you still will always miss home cooked meals and hugs from your mom. Your parents house will always be a home for you.

Your college starting to really feel like home is a tell-tale sign that you picked the perfect school for you.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
Featured

Haunted Houses For Halloween In New Jersey

The Top Scariest Haunted Houses In New Jersey

12297

Residing in New Jersey enables you to participate in various activities, and everyone has a favorite. In New Jersey, Halloween is also celebrated in a spooky way. There are many scariest haunted houses in NJ to celebrate Halloween. If you want to confront your greatest fears, Halloween Scariest haunted houses are ideal.

Keep Reading... Show less
Featured

Leaving My Backpack In The Library

Views about society and the stranger sitting right across from me

55603
https://unsplash.com/photos/O0T1SIgHAfM

As a college student, my backpack is an extension of myself in many ways. It contains my notes, pens, and computer vital for my success in college. It contains the snacks and water bottle I need to survive long days on campus. It also contains the "in-case" items that help put my mind at rest if I forgot something from home: extra hair ties, masks, and that backup-backup snack. With so much in my backpack important to me and my life on campus, it is no wonder that I can get apprehensive about it when it is not with me or in my line of sight. And that makes me wonder.

Keep Reading... Show less
Featured

5 Cool Gadgets To Make Your Car Smart

Don't let this stop you from making your car smart. You can change the one you have using smart gadgets that transform your car into a smart car.

111717

Cars are no longer just a mode of transport, where you only worry about the engine and how beautiful its interior is. These days, everyone wants to make their cars smarter, those with advanced technology systems. It makes sense for several reasons. It can make your vehicle more efficient and safer when you need to drive.

Keep Reading... Show less
Featured

The Inevitable Truth of Loss

You're going to be okay.

130818

As we humans face loss and grief on a daily basis, it's challenging to see the good in all the change. Here's a better perspective on how we can deal with this inevitable feeling and why it could help us grow.

Keep Reading... Show less
Featured

'Venom: Let There Be Carnage' Film Review

Tom Hardy and Woody Harrelson lead a tigher, more fun sequel to 2018's 'Venom'

105842
Photo Credit: Sony Pictures Entertainment – YouTube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-FmWuCgJmxo

When Sony announced that Venom would be getting a stand-alone movie, outside of the Tom Holland MCU Spider-Man films, and intended to start its own separate shared universe of films, the reactions were generally not that kind. Even if Tom Hardy was going to take on the role, why would you take Venom, so intrinsically connected to Spider-Man's comic book roots, and remove all of that for cheap action spectacle?

Keep Reading... Show less
Facebook Comments