What's Up With The New York Attitude, And How Do I Get One?

What's Up With The New York Attitude, And How Do I Get One?

Why are New Yorkers always rude?

If you've walked the streets of the city, or if you've lived in New York, then I'm sure you've noticed that people are "rude." Yes, some people are rude, but the majority of what you see/are vibing is just the "New York attitude."

One of the first things you may notice from a New Yorker is their resting b*tch face, or RBF.

Even if you are the type of person who naturally doesn't have a RBF, you will soon develop one once living in New York. It will especially be active while commuting on the sidewalks or the subway.

But don't be deceived! You will be able to tell who is actually angry and who is just trying to cross the street, and will also develop the skills of maneuvering through the crowd.

If you haven't noticed already, the pace of things is a lot quicker.

Picking up the pace of walking is one thing to adjust to, but the over all state of mind of New Yorkers are quicker pace too. Punctuality is key in the city. You need X amount of time for transportation whether it be subway, cab, bike, bus, or walking. You need X amount of time TO EAT, which is why $1 pizza is amazing and in fact a thing. Also, the lines for ANY Starbucks will be at least this long, and also for their bathrooms.

Notice this man eating pizza who looks like he's taking a break before he needs to get where he needs to be (also this pizza is amazing):

It may sound like people are complaining, and sometimes they are, but that's just the way New Yorkers explain things.

Don't get me wrong, everyone a part of this city loves it and takes pride just like any other city, but boy do we complain. Everything is too expensive, the streets and subways are really dirty and smelly, when people don't know how to walk right or are in your way, tourists, and the G train. New Yorkers easily bond when they complain about the same thing.

We're really good at ignoring each other.

New York is a crowded place, and sometimes you'll want to take a break from all the fast pace and just sit. You know that if you want to stop for a moment you should be out of anybody's way. And if you're by yourself, you don't want to be bothered. There's a mutual understanding of, you don't bother me I won't bother you.

Waiting for what seems to be a subway that will never come:

Not to mention avoiding people in Midtown trying to get you on one of these.

New Yorkers are actually nice.

Even with all this exterior, New Yorkers are still human beings and have passion. I've heard this from my mother a thousand times, "If you make it in New York, you can make it anywhere." This phrase means a lot, especially to her since she is from out of the country, but this goes to anyone who comes to New York and aren't natives. The best feeling is being able to say you've accomplished something in this city, to call yourself a New Yorker, and to know the hard work that is put into this city.

"If I can make it there, I'll make it anywhere, It's up to you, New York, New York!"

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I Went To "The Bachelor" Auditions

And here's why you won’t be seeing me on TV.

It’s finally time to admit my guilty pleasure: I have always been a huge fan of The Bachelor.

I can readily admit that I’ve been a part of Bachelor fantasy leagues, watch parties, solo watching — you name it, I’ve gone the whole nine yards. While I will admit that the show can be incredibly trashy at times, something about it makes me want to watch it that much more. So when I found out that The Bachelor was holding auditions in Houston, I had to investigate.

While I never had the intention of actually auditioning, there was no way I would miss an opportunity to spend some time people watching and check out the filming location of one of my favorite TV shows.

The casting location of The Bachelor, The Downtown Aquarium in Houston, was less than two blocks away from my office. I assumed that I would easily be able to spot the audition line, secretly hoping that the endless line of people would beg the question: what fish could draw THAT big of a crowd?

As I trekked around the tanks full of aquatic creatures in my bright pink dress and heels (feeling somewhat silly for being in such nice clothes in an aquarium and being really proud of myself for somewhat looking the part), I realized that these auditions would be a lot harder to find than I thought.

Finally, I followed the scent of hairspray leading me up the elevator to the third floor of the aquarium.

The doors slid open. I found myself at the end of a large line of 20-something-year-old men and women and I could feel all eyes on me, their next competitor. I watched as one woman pulled out her travel sized hair curler, someone practiced answering interview questions with a companion, and a man (who was definitely a little too old to be the next bachelor) trying out his own pick-up lines on some of the women standing next to him.

I walked to the end of the line (trying to maintain my nonchalant attitude — I don’t want to find love on a TV show). As I looked around, I realized that one woman had not taken her eyes off of me. She batted her fake eyelashes and looked at her friend, mumbling something about the *grumble mumble* “girl in the pink dress.”

I felt a wave of insecurity as I looked down at my body, immediately beginning to recognize the minor flaws in my appearance.

The string hanging off my dress, the bruise on my ankle, the smudge of mascara I was sure I had on the left corner of my eye. I could feel myself begin to sweat. These women were all so gorgeous. Everyone’s hair was perfectly in place, their eyeliner was done flawlessly, and most of them looked like they had just walked off the runway. Obviously, I stuck out like a sore thumb.

I walked over to the couches and sat down. For someone who for the most part spent most of the two hours each Monday night mocking the cast, I was shocked by how much pressure and tension I felt in the room.

A cop, stationed outside the audition room, looked over at me. After a brief explanation that I was just there to watch, he smiled and offered me a tour around the audition space. I watched the lines of beautiful people walk in and out of the space, realizing that each and every one of these contestants to-be was fixated on their own flaws rather than actually worrying about “love.”

Being with all these people, I can see why it’s so easy to get sucked into the fantasy. Reality TV sells because it’s different than real life. And really, what girl wouldn’t like a rose?

Why was I so intimidated by these people? Reality TV is actually the biggest oxymoron. In real life, one person doesn’t get to call all the shots. Every night isn’t going to be in a helicopter looking over the south of France. A real relationship depends on more than the first impression.

The best part of being in a relationship is the reality. The best part about yourself isn’t your high heels. It’s not the perfect dress or the great pick-up lines. It’s being with the person that you can be real with. While I will always be a fan of The Bachelor franchise, this was a nice dose of reality. I think I’ll stick to my cheap sushi dates and getting caught in the rain.

But for anyone who wants to be on The Bachelor, let me just tell you: Your mom was right. There really are a lot of fish in the sea. Or at least at the aquarium.

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11 Amazing TV Shows That Are Ending in 2019

All good things must come to an end.


It might just be the beginning of 2019 but there are many TV series wrapping up already. There are many breathtaking and original pilots around along with several reboots coming. This might be one of the greatest year for TV.

However, all good things must come to an end. Some series have been planned out and are going to be finished while others have been cut short. Sadly, here's a list of TV series to say goodbye to this year.

1. The Big Bang Theory (CBS)

Final Date: May

12 Seasons//279 episodes

2. Orange is the New Black (Netflix)


Final Date: End of 2019

7 seasons//91 episodes

3. Jane the Virgin (CW)


Final Date: Mid-late 2019

5 seasons//100 episodes

4. Games of Thrones (HBO)


Final Date: Summer

8 Seasons//73 episodes

5. Broad City (Comedy Central)

Comedy Central

Final Date: March

5 seasons//50 episodes



Final Date: Spring

7 seasons//67 episodes

7. Homeland (Showtime)


Final date: Summer

8 seasons//96 episodes

8. Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt (Netflix)

Final date: January 25

4 seasons//52 episodes

9. The Affair (Showtime)


Final Date: End of 2019

5 seasons//42 episodes

10. Friends From College (Netflix)

Final Date: End of 2019

2 seasons//16 episodes

11. Crashing (HBO)


Final Date: End of 2019

3 seasons//24 episodes

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