I have been trying to workout my very own definition of this word we like to call love. It is nothing and yet everything, hurtful and spiteful, a bitch and the warmness in our chests.
To quote the cliche: love comes in all shapes and sizes, form and divisions, expectations and deliverance's; It is in all and comes in more ways than just romantically.
So you want me to take a pick, deal a hand, and...
Go for it?
But what does that word even mean?
For first timers it becomes the scariest thing in the world. It can halt advances, steer couples into the wrong and right direction, invite fear, insecurities, and trouble into something that could have been sane.
These are questions that are asked almost daily.
1. Love; is it painful?
Some may say, hell yeah it is painful. However, others believe that love is not painful. It does not cause harm, nor does it actively invite pain. How one acts is a difference story.
2. If someone loved another, would they hurt them continuously? Purposely?
I have surprisingly received a lot of yeses in my sources. Some believe that if the individual has their significant others best interest at heart, then yes, it is possible.
It is possible because we are all humans. We make mistakes.
^^^ Another excuse or cliche?^^^
If someone loved someone and continuously hurt them purposely, there must be a strong motivation to do so. (My personal opinion is there better be a good reason to hurt the person you love purposely and continuously-- that is absurd to me)
3. When pain is involved, why is love always questioned?
Collectively, the answer seems to be that people tend to put love and pain in different categories. If someone loved another, then they wouldn't hurt them. However, that is not always the case. Because there is love does not mean that there is a lack of pain. One does not exist because the other is there. Love does not discredit pain. Pain does not discredit love.
4. Love means never saying sorry?
Personally, I believe that there are times when love means saying I'm sorry. However, it means saying a lot more than that. I believe that people make mistakes and that does not erase the idea that love was never in the question.
On the other hand, a lot of my peers believe that love means never saying you're sorry. One must never hurt the other if they loved them or put in their best interest not to.
Which is correct? Does there have to be a right answer?
5. If you loved someone, would you lie to them? Does that make it justifiable?
White lies are always there, although there are many other lies that exist. For example, lying by omission can sometimes be justifiable and, often, not. It truly depends on the severity of the lie and the person.
People believe in different things.
Some believe that love makes liars of us all.
Others believe that lying would never be in the product if love was in the mix.
6. When do you know you have stopped loving someone?
All have agreed that walking away and not looking back is a big indicator. Also, when the memories have been better than reality, it is time to realize that love is no longer there.
7. Is it worth it?
Love is the greatest thing that anyone can feel. It invites happiness and vulnerability which makes people wonder if it is something that should be tried. I have come across 3 answers.
1. It is a learning experience.
2. No
3.Yes
It happens at any moment in time. From the time that we are young or old, in middle school at a dance, or simply at 40 years old around your coworkers. It is random, it is inviting, and also an uninvited member. It takes away a persons identity and shares it with another.
Admit it.
Love is terrifying.
To answer my initial question, Have I found a definition for love?
Nope. Still have not come to a specific and detailed definition of that tasty word.
L O V E.
And I do not think that anyone could ever find a definition.
