Have you ever taken the quiz to find out what your “love language” is?
Try it out here to discover what your love language is.
Words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. It is so cool to me that everyone has a different priority list to their love languages. This doesn’t have to be only with a spouse or significant other. Your love language applies to your family and friend relationships as well.
Words of affirmation
A great way to express your love for somebody is by using words to build someone up. You can do this with compliments, appreciation comments, or just saying sweet nothings just because. Often hearing someone that you love express gratitude verbally means more than anything in the world.
Quality time
Who doesn’t love some good quality time with the people that they love? Well, some like it more than others. Quality time is considered giving someone your undivided attention, and listening to them while they talk to you. It could be simply hanging out just you and your spouse, or you and your mom. Time is so precious and when someone offers you their time it can mean a lot more than you would think.
Receiving gifts
Then you love the spirit of receiving and giving. Just a t-shirt from a friend who went on a trip is such a sweet gift. Also, if your spouse or friend comes over with your favorite snack, or a small present that they saw in the store and had to buy makes you know that they thought of you that day. Giving simple or extravagant gifts is such a great expression of your love.
Acts of service
When you come home to a clean house and dinner cooked because your roommate, or spouse, knows you had a long day is so meaningful. Their willingness to go out of their way to accommodate you is a good example of showing someone love. A lot of people say that ‘actions speak louder than words’ and that is definitely true sometime, especially if your love language is acts of service.
Physical touch
Some people immediately think about sex when they see this as a love language, however that is not all that is meant by this. A pat on the back is encouraging to some people, or a kiss on the forehead is reassuring. Often people want to hold hands just because it makes them happy. If physical touch is their main love language then they may want a hug or kiss hello and goodbye to feel more loved.
It may make or break a relationship depending on if you and your significant other, friend, or family member’s love languages coincide. If one person loves physical touch, and the other one is totally annoyed by it, then it can be tough to have a healthy relationship. If one loves to give and receive acts of service, but the other person wants to accomplish tasks with no help, then that can often be hard as well.
Most of the love languages fit hand and hand with each other though, however everyone has a stronger love language of the 5. Take these into consideration as you talk to your family, make new friends, or begin a new romantic relationship.
