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I Asked 33 Women What They ACTUALLY Want To See On Dating Profiles, So Men Can Step It Up

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I Asked 33 Women What They ACTUALLY Want To See On Dating Profiles, So Men Can Step It Up

I'm sure that I'm not the only woman out there who's tried multiple times to find "the one" on dating apps, yet have failed time and time again. Through all of the searching, swiping, and sleuthing, I've noticed a few patterns in the profiles that I've seen... and apparently so have other women. Eventually, it starts to feel like you're seeing the same profiles over and over again. I surveyed 33 women and asked them to pick three of the biggest reasons they swipe left and here's the breakdown. (Disclaimer: For anyone who does not know how the system works, if you swipe right, that means you're interested. Swiping left means that you are not).

Forms response chart. Question title: What are the 3 BIGGEST reasons that you swipe LEFT on a boy on a dating app? . Number of responses: 33 responses.

Out of 33 responses, 60.6 percent of women said the biggest reason they swipe left is when men have a picture of themselves with their ex-girlfriend, but with the girlfriend's face blacked out with text saying "This could be you." And I know, you're reading this and saying "Wait...guys ACTUALLY DO THAT??" I'm here to tell you that it occurs so often that it charted to be the No. 1 reason we swipe left.

Coming in second place with 48.5 percent and 16 votes is a man only providing one picture on his entire profile. In third place, with 45.5 percent, is the classic not providing any information on their profile. Ambiguity seems to be the trend. Now, if you're looking at the chart and see the consistent 3 percent bars with only one vote, the survey had an "Other" option for write-in trends that weren't already provided. These consisted of guys posting more photos of his dog than himself, all of his photos being group photos (this isn't a game of Where's Waldo!!), having a Bible verse in the bio, only posting attractive photos, and holding a fish or a dead animal.

Men reading this, are you shocked? What is it with the enigma that is your profile?

I decided to take it a step further and ask each woman what the likelihood would be for them to swipe RIGHT on a man who has each of these qualities.

Question 1: The high school letterman.

Forms response chart. Question title: How likely are you to swipe right on a boy who has a picture in his HS letterman on his profile? . Number of responses: 33 responses. OK boys, the likelihood of you getting a right swipe for having anything even to do with high school is LOW. It makes us women feel like creeps. If your best photo is one that you took during your high school senior photos, go outside and have your roommate snap one of you doing a cartwheel or something. Show us that you're in COLLEGE or OLDER (Unless you are, in fact, like 16 or something).

Question 2: Group photos.

Forms response chart. Question title: How likely are you to swipe right on a boy who's first profile picture is a group photo? . Number of responses: 33 responses.

OK, so group photos. I touched on this earlier, but if your first photo is a group one, followed by another group one, it starts to turn into a game of "Where's Waldo?" However, I believe the status of "would you swipe" depends on if the group photo is followed by a singular photo. I should have originally been more specific in the question. My personal opinion is that group photos are great because it shows us that the guy has friends, however, keep them off of the first picture.

Question 3: "The Office" quotes.Forms response chart. Question title: How likely are you to swipe right on a boy who's bio is a quote from the Office? . Number of responses: 33 responses.

I think "The Office" quotes are safe. Granted, they're used all of the time. The jury is up on that one, you do you, boys.

Question 4: Shirtless pictures.

Forms response chart. Question title: How likely are you to swipe right on a boy who has a shirtless "wow look at me at the gym" photo? . Number of responses: 33 responses.

If you've got it, flaunt it. However, a strong majority of women were not confident in that they would swipe right on a boastful shirtless picture. I think there's a difference between confident and arrogant.

Question 5: The Ex-Girlfriend.

Forms response chart. Question title: How likely are you to swipe right on a boy who has his ex-girlfriend's face blacked out with a quote saying "this could be you" ?. Number of responses: 33 responses.

Are we surprised? OK, next.

Question 6: Camo/Crocs.

Forms response chart. Question title: How likely are you to swipe right on a boy who is wearing camo/ crocs? . Number of responses: 33 responses.

I think this one really boils down to personal preference. Personally, the whole camo thing is a no-go. However, I understand that some girls might like it.

Question 7: Here for a good time, not a long time.

Forms response chart. Question title: How likely are you to swipe right on a boy who's bio says "I'm here for a good time, not a long time" or something along those lines ?. Number of responses: 33 responses.

Please, I'm begging you, get a new bio. The prospects are low here for a swipe right.

Question 8: No bio or any specific information.

Forms response chart. Question title: How likely are you to swipe right on a boy who doesn't provide enough information about himself (no bio or any specifications)?. Number of responses: 33 responses.

Ah, so your ambiguity is not working for you. Really.

Question 9: One picture wonder.

Forms response chart. Question title: How likely are you to swipe right on a boy who only has one picture on his entire profile?. Number of responses: 33 responses.

Again, we don't know where that one picture was taken, when it was taken, or if that's what you currently look like. Is it from high school? Are you 24 but that profile picture is from freshman year of college? Unless the picture has a timestamp, it is not valid.

Question 10: Personal values.

Forms response chart. Question title: How likely are you to swipe right on a boy who is doing something that doesn't align with your personal values (drinking, smoking, etc...)? . Number of responses: 33 responses.

I don't think there's anything guys can do about that but personally I don't recommend smoking a blunt on your profile right away. But hey, you do you.

Question 11: Random and unexplained children.

Forms response chart. Question title: How likely are you to swipe right on a boy who has random & unexplained children in a picture? . Number of responses: 33 responses.

Do you have a child? Are you a father? Are you an uncle? A big brother? What is your deal? Again, ambiguity.

After this, I decided to take it a step further.

I created a Tinder profile and surveyed 100 profiles. I collected data on these profiles to see how the answers from women compared to my findings. I originally swiped left for my first round of trying to collect data. However, I learned that through the Tinder algorithm, that strategy was not showing me all of the potential profiles. Therefore, I had to start swiping right on all of them. I deleted all of my original data from the strictly left swipes and started again. As it turns out, the ambiguity is popular.

Here are the results of my 100 swipes and the conclusion is that 74 percent of the profiles are lacking a bio or any specifications.

Forms response chart. Question title: Qualities in Swipes. Number of responses: 100 responses.

In the end I was baffled that I didn't find more photos of guys who have their ex-girlfriend's faces blacked out. However, I was not surprised to see complete ambiguity in all of the profiles. If another girl had been swiping, she may have found different results. Overall, I don't think it's all that possible to find the love of your life on a dating app, but maybe keeping a profile that encourages more swipes might increase the chances.

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