During high school I never really found any classmate attractive, or saw them as someone I would date. If you went to a private school your entire life, you probably know that feeling. I saw them more like brothers and close friends then someone I would hook-up with or date. Because of that, I never knew what it was like to have guys chasing me or be interested in me so much—that was until I got to college.

We all know the movies and TV shows that feature girls who dream about being the most beautiful women at school or in town and want every guy to chase after them. Honestly I was one of those girls, because I never had that type of attention and I was curious about it. As I grew up, I spent the summers at programs where I was able to meet people from all over the country. There I received a lot of attention from boys. But by the end of the program, we would end up being friends. So from that experience, I was able to get an understanding of what it was like to be one of the pretty girls in the room.

I thought college was going to be the same way, besides there were tons of gorgeous women all over campus so I didn't expect much. Going into college, I was dealing with a complicated relationship and was a bit vulnerable. I can tell you that boys at my school were able to sense my vulnerability, and I was immediately a target. Once it got out to certain people that I was officially single, not to be conceited, but it was like swatting flies left and right. At first it was great because It made me feel attractive, but after a while I realized that, out of all these guys I couldn't find one that gave me butterflies or made me feel like a princess.

That is when I realized all of the boys that were talking to me were immature and only wanted sex. I didn't feel attractive or like the prettiest girl on campus anymore.I felt objectified. I felt like a piece of meat. I had to slap myself in the face and tell myself that I was better than that. I am not the kind of girl who will sleep around to feel good about herself. But even though I said that to myself, the college boys did not care. College boys will go to any length to get what they want, but they should stop when a girl has given them the hint or a reason to stop.

I finally found the one man that made me feel a princess, who gave me butterflies and I was so happy to call him mine. During Christmas break we went official, and I felt relieved because I thought it would get those pesky boys off of my back. But, once again, I was proven wrong. Some men were mature, backed off and respected not only me but also my relationship so we ended up being friends. But others would not stop. It is insane to think about how we left high school in the past but it has a way of pulling you back into the high school drama. There will always be people in your life who will go to lengths to ruin what you have. Just recently I had a close friend try to ruin my relationship for the third time because he was jealous and could not stand to see me with someone other than him.

I know many girls will have an ex-boyfriend or an ex-best friend try to ruin their chance at happiness. But, I refuse to let it happen to me. My advice to all college girls, it's good to socialize and be friends with boys, but be careful and make sure they respect you. To those who are having harassment issues right now, report it. Call them out on it. No means no. And, if there are boys who just do not get the message and will not leave you alone, try to stop interacting with them. I learned that it might not be intentional, but you could be leading them on by staying their friend or staying in touch. Aside from that, be happy with what you do, who you're with, where you are in life and do not let an immature man ruin anything for you.