I've never been much of a party girl, but I've been to a handful of parties that have all taught me the same thing: drunk girls in bathrooms are the nicest, sweetest, purest people you will ever meet. And we all know exactly the girls we're talking about; not the girls crying over their boyfriend or throwing up their intestines, but the ones who will go on and on about how beautiful and great you are. Seriously, drunk bathroom girls would make the perfect boyfriend; they're thoughtful, considerate, and never stop telling you you're pretty. The thing nobody realizes about these encounters we have with these intoxicated women is how important they really are. The reason we enjoy this so much is because it's such a change of pace. Seriously, girls are rarely ever spitting compliments out at each other like that, as a whole, we're hardly ever that nice and genuine while sober. And honestly, this is concerning.
Loving one another is such an important and essential part of being a woman, we spend too much of our lives looking at things as a competition with each other; why can't we just stop and appreciate each other once in a while? Instead of getting jealous of each other and bashing each other, we're capable of being happy for each other and motivating each other, and it's honestly so much easier. A prime example on what kind of effects girl-on-girl hate has on us is in the movie Mean Girls. Nobody says it better than Tina Fey's character.
Girl world is more than just a little crazy, we spend so much time gossiping and trying to outdo each other that it's honestly becoming unhealthy in maintaining relationships with one another. And we're so accustomed to it, it seems normal to us now. The media depicts girl-on-girl hate with using cliques as two ends of the spectrum, something like a Barbie clone versus the underdog with a bad hair-do and in the end, they eventually become friends.
This being said, girl hate is just another form of internalized misogyny. Because we're held to certain gender stereotypes, we're always critical of each other because we have such unrealistic expectations for ourselves and each other. This creates the environment of competition and the idea of stereotypes in our society, which every teen movie shows us how toxic these stereotypes are.
The thing about the toxicity of girl hate is simple - it's easy to fix. Instead of bringing each other down, we can break the norm and be those drunk girls in the bathroom while we're sober. And honestly, it's so much easier being nice to people. Bringing people up is so much more rewarding than knocking people down, and it makes you feel better about yourself, too! If we can apply the kindness of a drunk girl in a bathroom to all aspects of life, the world will be a much better place.
