Here's the thing. I've been single for quite a while now. In fact, I would consider myself quite the professional when it comes to being single. I'm good by myself, and I have a great time without having to be in a relationship. And though I mention at times, that it would be nice to find someone special, I instantly regret saying it (at least outloud), because then people think it's okay to hit me with the same old comebacks that I am sick of hearing! Look, sometimes we single people just need to vent without all the cliche advice. It's especially annoying when NO ONE ASKED FOR YOUR OPINION. So without further ado, here is a compiled list of things you should just quit saying to single people:
Do you put yourself out there? What does that even mean, "do I put myself out there"? It's not like I've barricaded myself from other people! I'm already a bubbly, outgoing, loud person as it is, what more could I do to put myself out there? I'm not going to just throw myself at every person that walks by and *hope* that they notice me. I want someone to take a liking to me because of who I already am, not because I tried extra hard to get myself noticed.
Maybe you should lower your standards. This is seriously one of the most ridiculous things I've ever been told as a single person. So you're telling me that I should just settle for the sake of not being single? NO!
You need to try online dating. When people tell me this I get instantly upset and sort of offended. I don't know why I take it so personally, but it makes me feel like you're saying that's my only option. Also, have you ever thought that maybe, just maybe, I'm not looking right now?
I don't get it—you're such a fun person! Yeah, okay thanks. This line, while seemingly nice, is actually really annoying, and doesn't help at all. If anything it just causes me as a single person to evaluate my self and make me look for things that could be considered "wrong" or "unattractive" about me.
And the worst of them all...
"You're time will come." I am so over this line. First of all, you don't know that. What if I'm just meant to be single? I don't think that's the case, but it's still a possibility. This one particular line is so annoying to listen to because it's something we single people hear way too often. I already know that I have to be patient; you can stop reminding me now.
So please keep in mind: just because you have good intentions, doesn't mean they always come out that way. You may really think you're helping your friend by saying some of these things, but sometimes you just need to let us get it out of our system without trying to give "hopeful" advice. And also keep in mind...
Most of the time, we're just really okay with being single.
