As a woman in college, I realize that marriage is getting closer and closer, but when I look around, I feel as if college men aren't necessarily looking into the future and finding "the one." They seem standoffish or only want one thing which we see a lot throughout college campuses.
I wondered if below the surface there was something more to them, do they think of the future and who they want to spend their life with? What makes a women wife material to them?
I decided to ask men from different colleges across the country what makes a woman “wife material” and I was honestly surprised by the in-depth responses. Many of the men knew exactly what they wanted in a woman and gave genuine responses.
I know most girls say college boys are “immature” or “don’t care about anything,” but when writing this I discovered that maybe not all but most actually do.
After asking 17 college men across the country I have concluded that we as women do have hope for the future, and men are actually more than what they may seem. They look for all the same qualities most women are looking for like loyalty, trustworthiness, intelligence, and more. Even though in college they may be with all the wrong women, in the future they are looking for something more, something special.
1. “If she’s loyal, funny, laid back, and positive...
I don’t want a woman who talks too much and is overbearing. It’s also important that she’s fun to be around.” - University of Cincinnati
2. "You look at thousands of other girls, but your girl is still the most beautiful one...
and you can spend hours and days with them and never be sick of them, and still miss them when you're not together. Also, it is important to find a girl that you can spend time with her family and feel like you are a part of it. The sex also has to be great physically and emotionally not just for fun.” - Bellarmine University
3. “If she’s not dramatic, plans to succeed, and cares about her health.” - UNC Chapel Hill
4. “Great personality. Very friendly. Beautiful face. Beautiful body.
All around very intelligent. Guides you in the right direction. She has to be that all around person. There are certain elements of a woman’s personality that are important like matureness and friendliness. It’s important she also has motherly traits because family is important when finding a wife.” - University of Dayton
5. "A wife should be someone who is true, honest, and loyal.
A woman who is brave and outgoing, who is not afraid to take a stand for her beliefs. She should be happy and purposeful, and have a great sense of identity. I would like for our cultural customs and family ideals to be in tune." - University of Oregon
6. “I'd say a girl that loves me and accepts me and someone who I would give everything and anything to be with. She's got to be loyal and stuff like that.”- University of Kentucky
7. "In my opinion, when the girl is loyal and there for you through good times and hard times.
Someone who has goals and wants to make something of hers and our future. Someone who you can just be yourself with and who is all about us a couple and not just about herself.”- Ohio State University
8. “A girl who is faithful, can cook and clean, and is generally a good person. She should also be motherly and easy on the eyes.” - Ole Miss
9. “She has to have good personal hygiene, care for others, communicates well, and have a calm personality.” - NC State
10. “Someone down to earth, open minded yet strong in their ways, curious, driven, ambitious, attractive inside and out, and caring; not just toward myself but people in general.” - Miami University (Ohio)
11. “The number one thing for me would be a loyal and trustworthy wife.
After trustworthiness and loyalty is probably personality. In general, she has to be someone who is fun to be around. Obviously, I have to be attracted to her. Wife material is the girl that is your love and your best friend.” - Cape Fear Community College
12. "I mean I don't know. I guess someone who is loyal, understanding, and ambitious. I would never marry a girl who had no ambition or drive." - University of Alabama
13. “A smart woman who is very aware. She should be independent and all around good person. Someone who is faithful and kind.”- University of Southern California
14. “I would say that she has to be cooperative, trustworthy, and understand that being a wife means more than just being married.
It means being best friends with someone, and that means wanting the best for their significant other, even if that means compromises must be made to keep both people satisfied. Because being able to compromise is huge and marriage is all about give and take because I believe you get out of it what you put into it.” - University of Miami (Florida)
15. “I think wife material is a girl that is loyal and loving towards you no matter what you do.
They are trustworthy and trust your judgment. Basically, your best friend who you can share all your secrets with, you two do everything together but are able to be separated for some time and when you are reunited it’s as if a part of you was missing.”- Arizona State University
16. “I’d say the term “wife material” is very broad because as cheesy as it is, beauty, not only physical, is truly in the eye of the beholder.
However, to me, a common trait that is admired by women is compassion. This crazy world has so many different types of people. If a woman can show genuine compassion for other people and things and she has the patience to listen to people’s stories, then I think she is what you call wife material.” - Ohio University
17. “Wife material to me is a woman who is laid back and easy to get along with, the feelings should come naturally and not feel forced.
When you are around her you just know she's the one you want to spend your life with, even through the rough times." - University of Colorado at Boulder
When interviewing these seventeen guys across the country I have come to the conclusion that they are looking for all of the same things that we as women are looking for when looking for “Mr. Right." They aren’t looking for what is on the surface and a pretty face, but something deeper and more meaningful. They are looking for a soulmate and a best friend.
It may be hard to find Mr. Right while in college, but I can guarantee you ladies that he is out there somewhere.
