One major stressor that is common for all high school seniors about to enter college is knowing how far away you will be from your friends. Whether you're twenty minutes down the road, or on the other side of the country, being separated from your friends for long periods of time is extremely difficult.
Of course, there's FaceTime, Snapchat, and other forms of social media that can help you all stay in touch, but it doesn't come close to seeing each other in person.
But if you're that one friend in your group who's the farthest out of the way from everyone else, let me be the first to say that I completely understand how you feel.
When deciding where we all wanted to go to college, my entire friend group was supportive of everyone's decision, because we knew that we would each grow and flourish as college students in our new homes for the next four years.
And regardless of where we would end up, we knew that we would always remain the strongest of friends always supporting and loving each other.
However, while a majority of my friends decided to stay close to home in New York City, and I decided to venture a little bit farther all the way up in Syracuse, the distance still is a hard factor for me, even as I'm about to finish my freshman year.
For my friends, it's easier for them to meet up in the city for a weekend, whereas for me, it would be an expensive day trip. Because of this, I have missed many opportunities to see my friends during the school year, and it hurts my heart every time seeing all of the photos and videos they post.
Being so far away is also hard for when you want friends to come visit your own school. Not only are conflicting schedules hard to deal with, but the costs of travel are extremely expensive, so this usually means that it's not that often you'll have sleepovers with your friends in your dorm room for the first time in a long time.
And this feeling only gets worse when you see your other college friends who are able to actually do this because you just want to be with your own group once again.
Luckily, I've learned a few tips on how to make the distance factor not as much of an issue if you can easily relate to this feeling:
1. Yes FaceTime isn't the same as being together in person, but it's better than nothing
While video calling does not compare to physically being with each other in person, it's still an easy way to find time to catch up with your pals. Figure out each other's schedules and see when's a good time for you both to set free time aside to call and fill each other in on the latest gossip on campus.
2. Take advantage of all of the free time you'll have over school breaks
This is essential because these are the moments where you have little to no responsibilities on your shoulders, meaning more free time for you and your friends to finally goof around together again.
Also, school breaks always fly by in the blink of an eye, so you definitely want to make sure that you and your friends make every moment together count.
3. Send each other cute letters or care packages
Is your friend stressed over a final or boy troubles? Send her a letter or a little package full of goodies to help cheer her up and know that you care about her. Another idea is to give each other a box full of letters that are addressed to be opened for a specific occasion, such as when she's having a bad day, or when she's sick, or even if she's just missing you too.
Distance is a hard thing to cope with, especially when it's separating you and the closest people you have.
But at the end of the day, you all can definitely make it work and still remain the strongest group of friends.