What I’ve Learned about Growing Up

What I’ve Learned about Growing Up

It’s a process of discovery and acceptance.

I’ve been learning a lot about growing up lately. And a lot of what I’ve found has been really surprising, but obviously good information to hold onto. It’s one of those things that you just don’t know until you’ve experienced it first hand, learned from mistakes, and taken time to get to know the person in the mirror.

1. Growing up means reevaluating things.

Life throws curveballs allll theee time! I think it takes a lot of maturity to use those curveballs to figure out if something needs to change in your life.

2. Growing up doesn’t always mean change.

I think one of the most obvious examples of this is some of the former Disney Channel stars. They were child stars, and yes, when you grow up you become more mature, but their versions of “mature” seems to mean acting and believing the complete opposite of what they did when they graced the screens at teens. I don’t think you’ve got to completely cast off your innocence when you grow up. Values are values no matter how old you are.

3. Growing up means learning to say yes.

There are some scary things out there-things way outside our comfort zones. But I think part of growing up means realizing the value in taking risks at times. Growing up means not wanting to stay stagnant.

4. Growing up means learning to say no.

This one is definitely harder for me! Growing up means understanding your limits (because we do truly have them!) and valuing your health, wellbeing, and priorities enough to say no to something that will compromise them.

5. Growing up means sinking deep down into the truth.

Once you’ve learned and experienced the true truth - yes, the true truth - growing up means clutching it as tightly as you can. You need truth about who you are, who others are, and how, together, you and this world is meant to be.

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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