What It's Like To Be The "Mom Friend"

What It's Like To Be The "Mom Friend"

You aren't old enough to be responsible for people your own age, but you are.

What is a "mom friend" you ask? Every friend group has one. It's that one person in your squad that stands out from the rest. That one special person that takes care of others, puts everyone else above herself, but still manages to be the hilarious, wild individual that the whole group loves. If you're the mom friend of your clan, I'm sure you can relate.

Mom friends are the best self-esteem boosters.

These people will make you feel like you're on top of the world. They'll make that C+ feel like an A+ and your bed head hair feel like an extravagant updo. Whatever the situation, they'll always make you feel as flawless as Beyoncé.

The mom friend controls her squad at social events.

The designated driver every night. But, do we mind? No way! Mom friends consume fewer calories and embarrass themselves enough without the help of alcohol. We also confiscate the cellular devices before someone drunk texts their mom or ex, or posts an unfortunate tweet. We're always there to keep our friends in line and have just as much (or more) fun.

Nobody can hurt your babies.

All mothers are protective of their young. In the wild, the lioness will stop at nothing to provide for her babies. But, trust me, angering the mom friend is much worse than angering any jungle animal in existence.

The mom friend knows how to fix everything.

Whether it's giving regular haircuts to the boys or giving your best girl friend a back rub after a rough day, you always know how to fix it all... Or so they think.

Much like a parent, you take their side even when they're wrong.

If you're the mom friend, you've probably been told, "If I killed someone, I'd call you to help with the body." Should we be flattered or scared? Who knows. But no matter what, you'll always be the shoulder to cry on and late night phone call. No judgment shall ever be passed; and even though you may not support their decision, you'll always support them.

Your friends literally call you "mom."

"Mom" is a cute nickname that only few people earn the right to be called.

Always finding yourself saying, "we can take my car."

You don't care about the mileage or the gas money. You like feeling in control of your life, and knowing that all your friends are safe and sound with you.

You come off as the bossy friend.

"Don't forget that your homework is due at midnight." "Wear your seat belt." "Text me when you make it home." For some reason, you're always the friend that's barking orders. It's OK, though, because everyone listens to you and they know you're sassy because you care.

You're also the over-emotional friend.

If you see us, there's probably a good chance we're crying. Happy, sad, indifferent... We just have a lot of feelings.

You were chosen to be the mom friend.

No one just comes out and says "Hey, will you be our mom friend?" However, it is a mutual selection. The mom friend sticks out because of her loving attitude and her overbearing personality.

Secretly, you love being the mom friend.

We all try to pretend that being the mom friend is a stressful role. But, let's be real... We wouldn't want it any other way. We actually LOVE feeling needed. We have a job, a purpose. We are our friend's second moms. We're their caretaker away from their caretakers. Quite possibly, the best aspect of all, we are the foundation of our friend group! Your friends couldn't function without you! You are the heart and soul of your squad.

So I will ask all you responsible, emotional, crazy "mom friends" out there to proudly hold your water cup high at the frat parties as you dance the night away and keep a head count of your friends, all while knowing that you will safely tuck them into bed that night; and, most importantly, knowing that you will forever and always be... the mom friend.

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An Open Letter to the Best Friend I Didn't See Coming

Some people come into your life and change you forever—thanks, bestie.

Dear best friend,

I wasn't expecting you when God placed you in my life. I had my friends. I had my people. I wasn't exactly open to the idea of new meaningful friendships because I had the ones I needed, and it didn't seem like I really needed anybody new.

Thank God that was false. Sometimes you meet people and you just know that you're going to be good friends with. Sometimes you meet people and you realize that there is no such thing as chance. I think God has a funny way of making it seem as if the things that happen to us are by chance, but honestly, that’s a load of crap. If the biggest moments of our lives were left up to chance, then I believe that would make God out to seem as if he didn’t care. It would make it seem as if He was truly abandoning me and making me face some of my most important seasons fully isolated. But you, best friend, are a true testament to the fact that God doesn’t just leave such important aspects up to chance. Thank you for taking a chance on our friendship, and thank you for allowing me to take a chance on what I didn’t realize would be the most impactful friendship in my entire life.

Thank you for being real with me. Thank you for not sugar coating things. Thank you for telling me when I have a bad attitude. Thank you for loving me through my mistakes. Thank you for supporting me in my decisions, even if it isn’t always the decision you would make. Thank you for wanting the best for me, and for making that your true intent behind the words that you say to me, whether they be constructive criticism or encouragement.

Thank you for being a goof with me. Thank you for putting me first. Thank you for seeing the importance of our friendship. Thank you for making time in your schedule for us to just sit and do homework, eat Mexican food, or sit on the porch and listen to music that emotionally wrecks you.

You’re one of a kind. You’re a shoulder to lean on. You’re a safe place. You’re a free spirit. You’re rough and tough, but your heart melts for the people you love and it’s obvious. You’re more than meets the eye. You are worth getting to know. You are worth loving. You pursue people. You are passionate about your future. You are everything that a person needs, and I really thank God that for some reason you continue to choose to be in my life. Thank you for literally dragging me up my mountains of fear when I want to stay exactly where I am at and wallow in the sadness. You bring joy—true joy—wherever you go. You are my best friend, confidant, and biggest fan. You will be the Maid of Honor, Godmother, and fun Aunt.

I used to think lifelong friendships weren’t really a thing. It just seemed like people always grew apart and forever was never a point that was attainable. Best friends forever is a cliché phrase that is continuously overused nowadays (sometimes, I even used to make light of it), but thanks for making that a reality. You are truly the best friend I could have asked for. So thank you for it all. You make life more fun, and I couldn’t thank God more for making an incredible human, friends with me.

I love you, pal!


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Stop Feeling Guilty About Unfollowing People Who Are No Longer In Your Life

We need to stop defining ourselves by a double tap.


The number of followers I have on my Instagram account keeps falling every day, and I couldn't be happier about it.

You're probably like, "Is she okay?" But here's the deal: I have told myself for so long that I couldn't and shouldn't unfollow people out of courtesy. But the truth of the matter is that there are plenty of people whose lives I really don't need to be keeping up with anymore. I don't see them. I don't talk to them.

So why do I need to be concerned with throwing them a double tap?

I believe in authenticity over pity. I try my best to keep my personal account pretty real. I don't need to keep seeing pictures of people who really have no impact on my life.

So that's why I like seeing my numbers go down. Because I know that the truth of the matter is that there are people whose lives I'm no longer making an impact on. They shouldn't be following me!

I'm not relevant to them anymore, so why should they feel like they need to keep tabs on me?

Yes, I'm aware that this all might seem a little harsh. But why live a life where you're wasting energy on people you know longer know or connect with? We manipulate social media to reflect the best parts of our lives.

I don't know what's REALLY going on with so many people I follow. The opposite is the same too. I'm not a huge fan of social media cleanses because I like to be in the know. So I'd rather do a purge than take a break.

I want to be in the know with people I care about and have an interest in, not with people who I think might be offended that they lost a follower.

That follower number is just that: a number. It doesn't define who you are. It doesn't reflect your best attributes. So why obsess over it?

It's not who you are and it's never who you will be.

Challenge yourself to let go. It's an exercise that will leave you with so much relief and I guarantee that you'll be proud that you took a step in being honest with yourself. That's the true test.

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