I'm sure many of you have heard the infamous phrase, "honesty is the best policy," but we also can't forget, "it's easier said than done." These two well-known phrases can go hand in hand with one another. While honesty is essential for clear communication and building trust, as human beings, sometimes we fall short on saying the real truth to those around us. Somehow, it seems that on the inside we know exactly what we need or want to say, but in real life, actually asserting or expressing that something may be a daunting task. It can feel as if the words are on the tip of our tongue, but they fail to surface in actual conversations with one another.

Besides possibly creating problems or miscommunication in relationships, we might also be hurting ourselves without realizing it. We tend to use ourselves as a scapegoat, and the effects and toll this can take on ourselves personally are severe. If we are striving to be our authentic selves, then shouldn't honesty be an important factor in creating a true representation of ourselves as an individual?

In addition, it's not hard to just assume that someone else knows how we feel about something. It's human nature to forget that people can't read our minds. If something is bothering us or is not favorable in our eyes than that person next to you will not know that unless you speak up. If you aren't comfortable with doing a particular task or situation, then it is something you will have to bring attention to the person who needs to know. It can be scary or unsettling to put yourself out there or to assert yourself, though. But for your sake and others', it is important to be honest and upfront, not to mention you'll feel less conflicted and more at ease if you are straightforward with those around you. Also, it can benefit you to have a clear mind and can improve your mental health and increase productivity. It can keep you out of trouble and attract honesty from others. This might mean that you connect with others who are more upfront with you as well as create more authentic relationships.

And if the ultimate goal we're all yearning for is happiness, then being honest is probably a key ingredient in making this come true. Having a lump in your throat, elevated heartbeat, clenched teeth or tense muscles can be just as much emotional as it is physical. It's good to check with yourself every once in awhile to make sure you are being honest with yourself. A lot of times we can be unhappy about something and not realize it. We can push back the truth from ourselves and not figure it out till something really goes wrong.

Overall, be honest with yourself for your own contentment and so that those around you get to see your authentic self. And whether they accept you or not is not your problem. Embrace your truth, whatever that might be.