If you’ve ever been called one of the bros, you probably understand where I’m coming from when I say it’s an honor to be held in such high regard by some of your closest friends, but it’s also kind of the worst.
I know I always have a place on campus to go to when I want to hang out between classes. The house is always open and none of them even think twice about you just popping in to say hi and hang out.
There’s always someone to give me advice. Sometimes it’s nice to just have a guy’s perspective on things, and being close to a group of guys is the best way to get it. I’ve been known to throw out some advice for them too.
There’s always someone to take to date parties and formals. I never have to worry about if I’ll find a date to take to my formals and date parties because I know I can ask one of them and have a great time.
In fact, sometimes it feels like I have 60 overprotective dads or older brothers. I know I’ll never actually be treated like one of the bros, and I’m 100 percent okay with that. But coming from someone who actually has brothers, I can say with confidence that being one of the bros is very similar. They’re protective and concerned about you and it’s refreshing to know that I can rely on a group of young men to be there for me, both in the good times and the bad.
But it’s also unappealing because there’s about a 99.9 percent chance that I won’t find a boyfriend in that group. Not saying it never happens, but when they see you as “one of the bros” it’s a little harder to date one of them and vice versa. I just compared these boys to my real brothers. I definitely feel too comfortable with them and it’s more of a family relationship than a romantic one.
When recruitment rolls around, you can’t hang out at the house 24 hours, seven days a week, so you’re basically friendless. Okay, again, an over exaggeration. But it is hard to not see your friends during their recruitment week. In the end, it’s worth it though because you know you’ll have new friends.
They don’t like to craft with you and would rather spend their time playing beer pong or watching scary movies until 4 a.m. Crafting is life and when you’re one of the bros, you basically give this up as an option of things to do when hanging out.
When you’re friends with a large group of guys, if you make food for one of them, typically you end up making food for them all. Which results in copious amounts of food, an unexplainably messy kitchen and exhaustion beyond compare. But I’d do the same for my brothers and their friends, so basically the same thing, right?
I wouldn’t change a thing though because I have some of the greatest people as my friends and I’m lucky enough to have found my people.
