For those of you who do not know what "ghosting" is, ghosting is the act of ceasing all communications with a particular person in the hope that they will get the hint that you don't want to talk or date anymore. While reading that you are probably acknowledging that you have been ghosted or that you cannot fathom that action. Believe me when I say that it is the worst thing that can happen in any interpersonal relationship.
As a girl that has been ghosted so many times I will honestly tell you that it is so horrible. The act itself is sickening.
One second you are talking, having a great time. You think things are working out and they are really interested. The next day after a date, they stop replying. The messages are going straight to a blue message or a dark D. You try to convince yourself that it is not a big deal. They are just busy. You are being bothersome with as many messages you have sent, but no replies.
A week or weeks go by and you are still stuck thinking, "what is wrong with me?" Of course that isn't the case, there isn't something wrong with you. Maybe you might have been too clingy or texted too much, but it was all their fault. You didn't deserve to feel this way. The person who did this to you deserves to feel that way.
After you have been ghosted so many times you begin to become more obsessive about the people you talk to. You text more and become anxious about them not replying. Eventually, you develop this horrible anxiety because they haven't responded in a couple hours and you think that they do not want to talk anymore. You keep checking your phone even though you know it doesn't have that text message. You rush to it every time you hear that ding and when it isn't that person you get once again overwhelmed.
Most of the time the person whether male or female that you like won't reassure you that they aren't leaving. However, when they do, they may not always be truthful about this decision. Who can say they won't be tired of you in a month after constantly having to tell you that they aren't tired of you? It is a hard job to deal with this type of anxiety on both sides. They are worried because they think you are going to fall apart and you are worried that they hate you.
If you have ever gone through this agony, done this to someone, or even witnessed a friend go through this--please understand how mentally damaging this is! This is not a way to handle not wanting to talk to someone again. Deal with the truth and be honest.
It will be upsetting, but it won't leave another person laying in bed wondering every night why you didn't say goodbye or didn't like them.
