"Be somebody who makes everybody feel like a somebody."
"She's a little different."
I've heard and even said this many times, however the concept puzzles me. For someone to be different, there has to be a sense of normality.
When asked, many agree that yes, there is a class of people which may be defined as being "normal." Yet, that seems impossible.
Every person is unique; no two people are the exact same. We may share qualities and interests, but spend five minutes with someone and you can find differences between you two.
We judge others who do not seem this so-called "normal"; they become outcast from our friend groups and even from society. Yet, if someone examined our individual lives thoroughly, I'm sure they would find ways in which we're not normal.
It's a hypocrisy: we judge others for being different from the standard, when we ourselves are different from the standard.
How do we solve this problem?
Abolish the standard from your mind. Theoretically, the standard exists and it separates the average from the different, but realistically, it only creates a hypocritical ground for judgement.
It creates division. When we judge others, we miss out on a friendship where we may get someone who shares an interest with us and/or gives us a different perspective in things. Basically, when we judge we only wound ourselves from having a new friend.
What will you do: play into the world's hoopla of normality standard, or reject the standard and realize there is no reason for outcast? Millions of people from high school to adulthood feel pushed away in society; are you going to be the one who makes everybody feel like somebody?
Next time you see yourself about to judge someone, take a step back and examine reality Aren't you different? What if people judged you by your differences? Who knows, maybe it would open your eyes and end the trend.
