What Does It Mean to "Thrive" In College?

What Does It Mean to "Thrive" In College?

I wonder if there is a hidden angle, another story, which says more than a double tap.

Just a disclaimer before anyone reads this. This article is not about how I judge, criticize, or hate people who do the following things. Everyone is entitled to do whatever they want.

This idea for this article became a question I asked myself when I started comparing my Instagram and other social media outlets to my friends from high school. Which, as it truthfully seems, is not an accurate way to distinguish everyone's different college experiences.

Also, this article does not mean to call out or hate people who party in college....so, nearly everyone; it's normal, it happens, and I, out of all people, truthfully acknowledge that part of life as a college student and do not mean to be hypocritical in any way throughout this article.

The life of a college student is difficult as it is: living hundreds of miles away from home, making new friends, adjusting to a schedule, and managing your time. However, what makes all this stress worse is the inaccurate portrayal of how someone is adjusting to their college campus through the lens of their social media, or the act of "thriving."

Every weekend, my Instagram, Facebook, and other social media outlets become overwhelmed with pictures of my friends from high school in their new college. And while each of them most definitely have unique stories and experiences to tell when we reunite, all of their different yet similar posts seem to do more than represent a picture; most of the time, these posts seek to prove that yes, they are having fun in college because they are partying, have found their ride-or-die squad, and are seemingly having a fantastic time.

For some people, that may be the case. I am not writing this article because I am criticizing or jealous of my high school friends who seem to be enjoying their new home...as they should. Rather, I am writing because I wonder if there is a hidden angle, another story, which says more than a double tap. Frankly, I am wondering if their experiences are fake or not. And if they are fake, why do they take pride in living a fake life?

Here's one example: During the weekends of early September, nearly every single girl I went to high school with posted a picture with a small group of girls, most likely at their first college party, in their dorms or hallways dressed and ready to go out, or in front of a tapestry and holiday lights which seem to be the most "Instagram-worthy" spot.

All the captions referred to these girls as their "new friends" or contained a common pun about fraternities. I wondered to myself, "These girls don't even know each other...they've only been at school for less than two weeks. Are they actually friends or are they just using each other on their social media to prove to their friends back home that college has changed them?" But even worse, why did all the comments on posts like this have the word "thriving". What does it mean to thrive in college?

To some, to "thrive" is to spend nearly all your Thursday-Saturday nights, or at some universities, this is every night, out partying with people you don't know in an unfamiliar area. To others, college is about building relationships with other people....and maybe, finding out who your true friends are instead of pretending to get more likes on an Instagram post.

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Basically, adulting is hard.


Since moving out on my own last year, I've struggled. Hard. Many tears have been shed and many calls to my momma have been made. But despite it all, I've actually learned a bit.

1.  Laundry is the worst.


It's a never. ending. cycle. It will never be completely finished. And folding–oh my gosh, the folding–is the worst. It's so much work just for it all to get messed up again. Let's pledge to get rid of laundry in 2019, okay? Okay.

2.  Tolls are the biggest scam of the modern world.


Who got the grand idea that they would charge people to drive on their roads? I mean, it's a smart idea. But paying over $150 in tolls a month is the biggest scam of adulthood that I was not prepared for.

3.  Car insurance actually costs an arm and a leg.


Literally. Only for it to be completely useless if you ever get in a wreck. Because Florida is a no-fault state in terms of car accidents. Which loosely translates to: everybody loses.

4.  Chugging orange juice and Emergen-C won't cure everything.


You might actually have to take yourself to see the doctor. And yes, that also includes calling to make the appointment yourself. Because you're a gosh-darn adult.

5.  Candles are the epitome of grown-up sophistication.


I knew I was officially an adult when burning candles became part of my nighttime relaxation routine. There's just something about lighting a tiny fire that makes everything feel zen.

6. Eventually your drains will get clogged from all the hairs you stick on the walls.


Now I love hair-shower-art as much as the next guy (because getting hairs stuck to you in the shower is literally the worst feeling in the history of all the feelings), but eventually your shower drain will give up on draining after sucking up all your hairs. You'll actually have the snake it out–gag–or invest in plumbing liquid to flush it out.

7.  I should have learned how to cook by now...


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8.  Maintaining a real job takes a lot of work. 


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9. Maintaining friendships is even harder.


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10.  Being an adult is hard.


Yeah, and life is hard. And it's okay to call you momma when you need to. And it's okay to cry when you need to. And sometimes puppy snuggles are the best medicine. But you know what? You've got this.

To all my fellow struggling adults out there, you can do it.


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