What Does It Mean to "Thrive" In College?

What Does It Mean to "Thrive" In College?

I wonder if there is a hidden angle, another story, which says more than a double tap.

Just a disclaimer before anyone reads this. This article is not about how I judge, criticize, or hate people who do the following things. Everyone is entitled to do whatever they want.

This idea for this article became a question I asked myself when I started comparing my Instagram and other social media outlets to my friends from high school. Which, as it truthfully seems, is not an accurate way to distinguish everyone's different college experiences.

Also, this article does not mean to call out or hate people who party in college....so, nearly everyone; it's normal, it happens, and I, out of all people, truthfully acknowledge that part of life as a college student and do not mean to be hypocritical in any way throughout this article.

The life of a college student is difficult as it is: living hundreds of miles away from home, making new friends, adjusting to a schedule, and managing your time. However, what makes all this stress worse is the inaccurate portrayal of how someone is adjusting to their college campus through the lens of their social media, or the act of "thriving."

Every weekend, my Instagram, Facebook, and other social media outlets become overwhelmed with pictures of my friends from high school in their new college. And while each of them most definitely have unique stories and experiences to tell when we reunite, all of their different yet similar posts seem to do more than represent a picture; most of the time, these posts seek to prove that yes, they are having fun in college because they are partying, have found their ride-or-die squad, and are seemingly having a fantastic time.

For some people, that may be the case. I am not writing this article because I am criticizing or jealous of my high school friends who seem to be enjoying their new home...as they should. Rather, I am writing because I wonder if there is a hidden angle, another story, which says more than a double tap. Frankly, I am wondering if their experiences are fake or not. And if they are fake, why do they take pride in living a fake life?

Here's one example: During the weekends of early September, nearly every single girl I went to high school with posted a picture with a small group of girls, most likely at their first college party, in their dorms or hallways dressed and ready to go out, or in front of a tapestry and holiday lights which seem to be the most "Instagram-worthy" spot.

All the captions referred to these girls as their "new friends" or contained a common pun about fraternities. I wondered to myself, "These girls don't even know each other...they've only been at school for less than two weeks. Are they actually friends or are they just using each other on their social media to prove to their friends back home that college has changed them?" But even worse, why did all the comments on posts like this have the word "thriving". What does it mean to thrive in college?

To some, to "thrive" is to spend nearly all your Thursday-Saturday nights, or at some universities, this is every night, out partying with people you don't know in an unfamiliar area. To others, college is about building relationships with other people....and maybe, finding out who your true friends are instead of pretending to get more likes on an Instagram post.

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Spring break is three weeks away and I am already counting down the days. Why didn't anyone warn me that Sophomore year is so stressful? Don't get me wrong, I am extremely thankful to be given the opportunity to further my education. However, sometimes I just have to put my feelings first, and admit that I feel overwhelmed by my college workload.

Before any adults say “college is easy, you just need to apply your time” I do apply my time! This semester I am taking 18 credits, writing for the Odyssey, and active in two on-campus clubs. For those who are in the same predicament and balance a full/part-time job, I salute you. Recently, on Twitter, I came across a tweet stating “College isn't hard, the work just piles up on you” and related to that completely. I feel teachers should give homework because it gives clarity and practice in concepts that were not understood in class. But homework such as 40 multiple choice questions in macroeconomics, 40 multiple choice questions in accounting, 145 pages to read in fashion, a two page in essay in business writing, 45 pages to read plus a discussion question in international marketing, and 16 short answer questions in organizational behavior per week is excessive! Especially if you are not naturally gifted, so you have to take time outside of class to review lessons. And guess what? Somewhere in between all that work, I have to find time to eat, exercise, socialize, sleep, and apply for summer internships. On top of that, when you suffer from anxiety, managing symptoms is a full-time job in itself.

Its hard when you want to be successful but the process of achieving success requires you climb up a narrow mountain with a broken arm with 20/70 vision.

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Nevertheless, When I feel defeated (which is often) I refer to my motivational quotes which states “Build your own dreams, or someone will hire you to build theirs” and “The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. The optimist sees opportunity in every difficulty” to get me through. College is definitely a never-ending cycle of headaches, but I’m confident that I’ll eventually enjoy the fruits of my labor. Therefore, cheers to 2 ½ more months in the semester.

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I knew I loved Villanova University from the first time I stepped on campus. This was back in my junior year of high school. The following two years I adamantly followed Villanova in the hopes that I would end up there. Everything about this school was desirable.

It just seemed like a happy, lively, and loving place. When I was accepted in my senior year, I was ecstatic. This was the place I had dreamed of being, and now my dream was coming true. Now that I am here, I get to love all the things I had previously admired from afar, plus everything I have gotten to experience since getting here.

1. It’s gorgeous campus

From the Oreo to the cherry trees lining the entrance of the St. Thomas of Villanova Church, wherever you go on campus. I know when I was looking at schools, I would always notice the cohesiveness of the buildings around campus.

2. The Spit/Cova

Some people love the Spit and some people hate it, but regardless, upperclassmen will tell you to cherish it while you still have it. In addition, Cova is the best dining hall on campus in my opinion, no contest.

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Philly is an amazing city and it’s a mere 30-minute train ride away.

4. Tailgates

If you think your college’s tailgates are impressive, you’ve never been to a Villanova one. You haven’t lived until you’ve partied in the Wells Fargo parking lot for hours while the temperature is in the teens.

5. The small classes

And while this does mean that your professor knows when you skip, this also means that they have a better opportunity of getting to know you on a more personal level.

6. Basketball

Basketball brings Villanova together in the best way possible.

7. Jay Wright

I shouldn’t even have to explain this one.

8. Greek life

Greek life is by no means the be-all end-all of social life at Villanova, and I think that’s what makes it so great. It’s what you make of it.

9. Camp Co

I’m not sorry, you knew this would be on here. Buffalo mozzarella fries forever have my heart.

10. The students

There is an indescribable sense community at Villanova.

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