There Is More To College Than Finding Your Significant Other

There Is More To College Than Finding Your Significant Other

We don't pay $70k a year to search for a soulmate.


The weather is getting colder, the Starbucks beverages are getting warmer, and the only topic of conversation seems to be that cuffing season is right around the corner. Ladies, I am all for wanting cuddles and attention, but it's 2018, we don't need a man to make us happy.

This is not to say relationships are an absolute no-go. If you have someone who genuinely brings you happiness, props to you, but stressing and obsessing over someone right now, is NOT the most important aspect of life to focus on.

Sometimes as women, we tend to look for love in all the wrong places and that's the first mistake.

I apologize in advance for the blunt nature of this observation, but you will meet many boys in these next four years, and drunk connections don't necessitate love connections.

The random guy at the bar grinding on you will not care about you in the morning. The hot frat guy in your math class isn't trying to link this weekend. The boy next door who you seemingly always run into right after a shower and a face mask is not the boy next door the movie industry loves to romanticize.

There is nothing wrong with a one night stand or a casual hook up, but it's important to understand the intentions others may have before growing attached or catching feelings.

Plus, if these men are genuine, they will ask you out to dinner, not for your Snapchat.

It's crucial to guard your heart, especially as you learn more about yourself throughout college and learn of what will cultivate your personal happiness.

Boys aren't everything, but friends sure as hell are.

Like I said, cuffing season is around the corner, but the pursuit of a boy can be empty. The girls you call your best friends are definitely not, though.

They become your home away from home. You eat with them, you study with them, you hit the bars with them. My friends, whom I have come to love dearly, are the best girl gang I could ever ask for. We're crazy, obnoxious, and slightly out of control, but we always have each other's backs.

The comfort that you're searching for is in the girl, or girls, you'll probably end up rooming with one of these four years.

Don't underestimate your best friend either. Guy or girl, they are your shoulder to cry on, your therapist, and will more often than not call you on your bullshit. When you get the chance, thank them for keeping you sane.

Remember what we're really here for.

Let's also not forget that while college, especially at a school like Syracuse, is filled with blurry weekends and Snapchat memories to laugh, or cry, at on Sunday mornings, there is so much more to a prestigious university than tailgates, bars, and boys.

We pay $70k a year for reputation, prestige and a heated promenade, not heartbreak and disappointment.

In 2016, Whitman School of Management was ranked the 23rd best undergraduate business school by Bloomberg. In 2017, College Magazine ranked S.I. Newhouse School of Public Communications the no. 1 school for communications in the nation.

With rankings as such, we, as college students, should be invested in maintaining this reputation. If the goal is to be successful, no matter how one defines their personal success, now is the time to invest in the future.

Stop missing assignments, failing exams, and sleeping through class. I am certainly guilty of each, but it truly is time to stop bullshitting.

If you say you want to become that powerful businesswoman, CEO, politician, writer, activist: go do it. Put your words to action and put in the hard work it takes to achieve that level of success.

It's all about you this season.

The right person will walk into your life when you least expect it. We create this preconceived notion about how someone is supposed to sweep us off our feet and by doing so, it only sets the heart up for rejection and disappointment.

Let life play itself out and good things are bound to come.

As for now, you have the power to dictate who you are and who you will become. Focus on self-care and develop a mindset that will lead you to achieve the goals you set. I cannot stress how important mental strength is as it is key in surviving the bullshit life will throw at you.

As women, we are independent and have so many opportunities at our fingertips. It is truly a waste of our time and energy to pursue anything other than something that will bring us the utmost happiness. It's okay to be single this season, we're stronger on our own, anyway.

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To The Nursing Major During The Hardest Week Of The Year

I know that no grade can possibly prove what kind of nurse you will be. I know that no assignment will showcase your compassion. I know that no amount of bad days will ever take away the empathy inside of you that makes you an exceptional nurse.


To the Nursing Major During Finals Week,

I know you're tired, I know you're stressed, and I know you feel like you can't go on. I know that no part of this seems fair, and I know you are by far the biggest critic of yourself. I know that you've thought about giving up. I know that you feel alone. I know that you wonder why in the world you chose one of the hardest college majors, especially on the days it leaves you feeling empty and broken.

But, I also know that you love nursing school. I know your eyes light up when you're with patients, and I know your heart races when you think of graduation. I know that you love the people that you're in school with, like truly, we're-all-in-this-together, family type of love. I know that you look at the older nurses with admiration, just hoping and praying that you will remain that calm and composed one day. I know that every time someone asks what your college major is that you beam with pride as you tell them it's nursing, and I know that your heart skips a beat knowing that you are making a difference.

I know that no grade can possibly prove what kind of nurse you will be. I know that no assignment will showcase your compassion. I know that a failed class doesn't mean you aren't meant to do this. I know that a 'C' on a test that you studied so. dang. hard. for does not mean that you are not intelligent. I know that no amount of bad days will ever take away the empathy inside of you that makes you an exceptional nurse.

I know that nursing school isn't fair. I know you wish it was easier. I know that some days you can't remember why it's worth it. I know you want to go out and have fun. I know that staying up until 1:00 A.M. doing paperwork, only to have to be up and at clinicals before the sun rises is not fair. I know that studying this much only to be failing the class is hard. I know you wish your friends and family understood. I know that this is difficult.

Nursing school isn't glamorous, with the white lab coat and stethoscope. Nursing school is crying, randomly and a lot. Nursing school is exhaustion. Nursing school is drinking so much coffee that you lose track. Nursing school is being so stressed that you can't eat. Nursing school is four cumulative finals jam-packed into one week that is enough to make you go insane.

But, nursing school is worth it. I know that when these assignments are turned in and finals are over, that you will find the motivation to keep going. I know that one good day of making a difference in a patient's life is worth a hundred bad days of nursing school.

Keep hanging in there, nursing majors. It'll all be worth it— this I know, for sure.

So, if you have a nursing major in your life, hug them and tell them that you're proud of them. Nursing school is tough, nursing school is scary, and nursing school is overwhelming; but a simple 'thank-you' from someone we love is all we need to keep going.


A third-year nursing student who knows

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To The High School Graduating Seniors

I know you're ready, but be ready.



I am not going to say anything about senioritis because I was ready to get out of there and I'm sure you are too; however, in your last months living at home you should take advantage of the luxuries you will not have in a college dorm. The part of college seen in movies is great, the rest of it is incredibly inconvenient. It is better to come to terms with this While you still have plenty of time to prepare and enjoy yourself.

Perhaps one of the most annoying examples is the shower. Enjoy your hot, barefoot showers now because soon enough you will have no water pressure and a drain clogged with other people's hair. Enjoy touching your feet to the floor in the shower and the bathroom because though it seems weird, it's a small thing taken away from you in college when you have to wear shoes everywhere.

Enjoy your last summer with your friends. After this summer, any free time you take is a sacrifice. For example, if you want to go home for the summer after your freshman year and be with your friends, you have to sacrifice an internship. If you sacrifice an internship, you risk falling behind on your resume, and so on. I'm not saying you can't do that, but it is not an easy choice anymore.

Get organized. If you're like me you probably got good grades in high school by relying on your own mind. You think I can remember what I have to do for tomorrow. In college, it is much more difficult to live by memory. There are classes that only meet once or twice a week and meeting and appointments in between that are impossible to mentally keep straight. If you do not yet have an organizational system that works for you, get one.

I do not mean to sound pessimistic about school. College is great and you will meet a lot of people and make a lot of memories that will stick with you for most of your life. I'm just saying be ready.

-A freshman drowning in work

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