The Lesson I Learned From Being Away From You

The Lesson I Learned From Being Away From You

I learned to be independent again.

Often when we hear the phrase “long distance relationship”, we think of a romantic relationship. Our minds go to countless hours on the phone, face-timing until one person falls asleep, and epic airport reuniting scenes. Although these are what being in a long-distance relationship can sometimes include, they are only a small part of what dealing with your partner being away entails.

Before this summer, I had never been long distance with anyone before. The idea in it of itself was terrifying and something I definitely struggled to come to terms with. The first few days he was gone, I cried just thinking about the fact that I wouldn’t see him for almost three months. He is my best friend - someone who, when school was in session, I saw almost every single day. Now he is thousands of miles away, in a time zone that is 8 hours ahead of me. I cried a lot the first few days as reality sank in; it felt like I was never going to figure out how to deal with it. But then I did.

It’s impossible to describe how I got to this conclusion in a matter of a couple of days, but it came to me in what felt like an epiphany. I came to terms with the fact that I was going to be okay on my own and that everything was going to be just fine. I also came to terms with something a little bit more deeper.

I realized that my previous struggle to deal with the distance in my relationship stemmed from my insecurity of not knowing who I was when I wasn't with him. That scary reality is one that I think hits us all when we understand that one of the reasons why long distance relationships are so hard is because when you are in a romantic relationship, especially in the honeymoon stage, your relationship defines a large part of who you are.

We don’t intend it to, but it does. So when that person leaves, it is like our world is turned upside down, and we no longer know how to function as just us.

I think that is one of the main things that I have learned from my partner being away: I learned how to be independent again. I learned that I don’t need anyone else to make me happy, I can make myself happy. I learned that spending time learning about myself and improving myself is equally as, if not more, important than learning about my partner and working on our relationship.

As I write this today, there are 41 days, 5 hours, 11 minutes and 37 seconds until he comes home (yes, I am that corny girl that has a countdown timer on her phone). Every day, as I see the days on the timer go down, I get more and more excited about his return.

I write this to emphasize the fact that although being apart has made me realize so many different things on who I am as an individual, it has also made me realize how in love I am with my boyfriend, and how no matter if we are five minutes apart from each other on the quad, or thousands of miles away from each other this summer, that fact will never change.

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6 Degrees Of Frat-Boy Break-Up

What it feels like to be broken up with by a college frat boy. Girls, hear me out.


Dealing with a breakup or "catching feelings," these poems relate the unsaid feelings girls experience mid-relationship or post-break-up, especially after dating "Mr. Hot-Shot" on campus.

These poems are in the order of the thoughts and stages after a breakup from a girl's perspective.

1. "Feelings"

You know they are coming
You try to
abolish &
destroy them
Yet, here they are
You caught them

"Feelings" by Gabriel Rye

"Why Can't He Love Me"

Entering slowly, He came like a thief in the night
Sharing His thoughts and feelings, Childhood memories
Creating a story She could only wished to have been apart of
Building Himself up, Tearing Her guard down

Embracing Her body, but never Her soul
Loving the high, but never the girl
Ruining Her innocence
And breaking Her trust

The cycle repeats
Holding hands with Yet another
Sharing a kiss with a few
Breaking Their hearts, His insecurities

He calls Them crazy
They call him drunk late at night
When will She know She is worth more
When will She love Herself the way She wants Him too

"The Cycle Repeats" by Gabriel Rye

3. "W.T.F"

W. why do I give more of myself to those who don't appreciate me
T. too many times I've been hurt, yet I keep letting my guard down
F. for all the times I've heard fake "i love you"s

"W.T.F" by Gabriel Rye

4. "Late Night Thoughts"

I do not know if it's my eyes wondering for something more or my heart.
~11:28 pm

"November 06th, 2018" by Gabriel Rye

5. "Uneasy"

feelings overflowing.
my walls being torn down.
shut out once again.
your eyes were cold.
yet i felt warm with you.
more work.
more responsibility.
less money.
less time.
i gave my time to you.
wasted energy.
needing the high once again.
im uneasy.

-the unspoken thoughts of a college student

"Uneasy" by Gabriel Rye

While many of these poems are pessimistic, they also relate the true sentiments girls feel after

a break-up. Hopefully, if you are going through a breakup or rough patch in your relationship,

these poems let you know that you are not alone and you will come out stronger and better than

before. While not all frat boys are bad, this experience has made it more clear of how girls

(and myself) should be treated. Do not ever settle for less than what you deserve. College is a time to find yourself and learn from your experiences, so enjoy your life and maybe even try talking to that cute athlete that sits

next to you in your Calculus class?

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