You were raised to believe and to do certain things that were considered morally right by your family members and people that you were exposed to at a young age. Families set the example. But lately, I've been wondering where some of our messed up ideals of today are coming from? This generation has an issue with valuing and showing a particular way of life that is considered "goals." Obtaining that status is something everyone strives for and they will stop at nothing to feel "accomplished" in another persons' eyes, especially behind a phone screen. Times are changing. Old fashioned "I'll pick you up at 7:00 for dinner and a movie" has turned into "what's your snap?" or a one-night stand. Going out every weekend is a must for you and your girls. How about that hangover in the morning? That's a must too. It's included with the "fun" of last night. Young adults are so sheltered into thinking that they have to go out every single night of the weekend to make a name for themselves. It's all about who you know that gives you that perfect "goals" reputation. You have to post about it too. Every party there's a photoshoot. But oh wait, lets be professional here and cover our drink with an emoji. It's not that obvious, is it?
Sticking to the status quo is usually considered the easiest way to avoid trouble and issues with others. But wait?... Wouldn't it be amazing if just for a moment... we were unapologetically ourselves to anyone and everyone we came across? People will definitely judge and ask you why you do the things that you do. "Why don't you ever hang out with us?" "Why don't you text that guy back?" They will make you feel like something is completely wrong with you and you have to rethink everything you ever stood for and knew. Don't let them break you. You don't have to be friends with everyone. Keep that urge to do what you want to do despite what people may say or think. That's the problem with people these days. If you aren't raised like them or have a similar point-of-view, you are automatically and completely in the wrong. People are meant to have variety and be different. You're not meant to be like the other girl or guy.
It's scary when you start to see the same person in everyone you talk to. I speak to the stereotypical girl that is completely carefree and has no real-life goal for themselves. Some people do surprise me in how they convey themselves, but this is rare to find in anyone. I have met several girls in my first year of college that genuinely concern me. I see an insecure, broken person in need of a reality check. I talk to a "tough" girl where "feelings" are the worst thing they've ever came across. The "I don't care about anything" attitude has got to go. Have a passion other than alcohol. Love people. Do as much for others as you can. If they wanna listen to you, great. If not, keep doing you. State your opinion and if people don't like it, let them be and love them anyways. Life is too short to make enemies over stupid things. If they don't see your gentility then they weren't meant to be in your life in the first place.
I've never desired anything more than to fall in love with a man that will be my future husband, graduate college, get my dream job, have kids and live happily ever after. I will continue to do what I love doing despite what others think. I love to run long distances and lift. Not everyone agrees with that, but it's an outlet I use to get away from the opinions of others. Of course, there are going to be bumps along the road. It's expected. You're going to feel weak at times, but you have to hold on.
What happened to these desires in other people? No one ever hears about love stories anymore. It's all about who you hooked up with, who you're "talking to" or how much alcohol you can chug at a party. If you didn't get black out drunk and take 3 minutes of Snapchat stories of it, did it really happen? You don't want these kinds of values in your life. I'm not shaming people that go out and do it every once in a while. But personally, I'd rather be dedicated to my own goals and not get distracted with other peoples' goals. If you feel the same way as I do, then I want to reassure you that there is nothing wrong with that. You aren't other people.
