The Mad Hatter asks, "Have I gone mad?" Alice replies, "I'm afraid so. You're entirely bonkers. But I'll tell you a secret. All the best people are."
Society has planted this idea in our minds that we are supposed to have our shit together by senior year of college. Not only professionally, but with friendships, relationships and basically everything else too. I thought that by my senior year I would have it all together but honestly, I'm more of a mess now than I was last year. But, I'm starting to realize that is OK to be a mess.
There are always those people in class who have too much to put on their resumes. I have had my fair share of breakdowns wishing I had done my first internship when I was in preschool. But really, most people haven't even completed one internship. Once we graduate, we seek to find a job. We might not get our dream job immediately, or even be financially stable right away, but we will move on to the next phase of our lives and things will work out, no matter what our resume says.
Friendships. These are always so complicated. Even when you think everyone has the best friendships, I guarantee they don't. There is always drama that friends have going on, and no one is as perfect as they appear. For me, most of my best friends have graduated already and my senior year has felt like my freshman year all over again. It's a very strange feeling without your friends who made your home for the past three and half years so familiar. But it's OK to not have perfect friendships. Everything happens for a reason and whether friendships are old, new, good or bad, they all teach you something.
It seems like now that we are approaching graduation, the most popular thing to do is get engaged *starts hyperventilating*. I am so happy for those who are ready to take that step in their life, but I know that I am not ready for that. The problem? Every time you see someone their first question is "When are you getting engaged??" I don't even know how to support myself let alone another human being. I just got a puppy and that is hard enough. I don't need to be thinking about getting engaged at all. My time will come and it will be great, but that time will not be for a few more years.
So, what does all this mean? It means that we're all dealing with different things and we're all mad, but it's OK. We're allowed to not have it together, and we are allowed to be confused. We have our whole lives to figure life out. So the best advice I can give you is to take a deep breath, jump down the rabbit hole and embrace this wonderland of life.
