I'm Well Loved, Not Spoiled Rotten

I'm Well Loved, Not Spoiled Rotten

I have never had a silver spoon in my mouth, I've had the opposite.

Recently, I've been called spoiled rotten for recent gifts I've gotten.

Number one, I am NOT spoiled rotten. Numer two, who are you to judge me for what I get? I am very grateful for the gifts I receive and even deny most things cause I feel awful about taking them. Most of the things I receive are gifts because I've worked for it, or it's my birthday or Christmas.

I am a very grateful person and want everyone to know it. I hate that there is a label put on me just because I get things. No, I didn't get handed things as a child and now, I was taught to work for what I want and taught to be responsible. I am well loved by most of my family and I can't stop them from doing so, I apologize for that. I have never had a silver spoon in my mouth, I've had the opposite.

I want people to understand that my mother does her best to provide for me. She has had to take on the role of a father and a mother the last few months and she's done a fantastic job of raising me to have a work ethic and to be responsible.

When I wanted a dog? My parents made sure they told me how hard it would be, even though my dog ended up loving my mom and dad more.

New Phone? I had to show responsibility for taking care of a phone and have good grades.

I have never gotten the easy way out.

I am an only child so being spoiled is typically a frowned upon stereotype of only children. My parents never once tried to buy my love or make up for times they weren't there. My parents were busy people, working and trying to raise a little girl. They showed me how to be an adult and work for things at a very young age and I am grateful for that.

I apologize to everyone who thinks I'm spoiled rotten. I am spoiled, but not because my parents loved me "too much" or because I was raised with a silver spoon. I am well loved and cared for by an amazing woman who wants me to have nice things. I thank her for that every day. So please, stop referring to me as a "spoiled brat' or as "spoiled rotten"

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Dear Dad, Thanks For Opening My Eyes

I hope you know your words, and who you are as a person, mean the world to your daughter.

Unlike most college kids on spring break, I didn't seem to have much of one. With a demanding major like mine, the grind never stops. Believe me, I knew what I was getting myself into when I enrolled in college. I love to challenge myself and keep myself busy but sometimes I too feel lost or hopeless when I'm putting in immeasurable hours of work and not seeing any progress.

And so, I paced the floor back and forth, until I plopped onto the couch. The only thing I could bring myself to do is cry and think that I'll never be able to get to my final destination in life if I can't pass those "weed-out courses." It was then instead of going to sleep or hanging out in the garage, my father decided to comfort me instead.

I got the usual from him: How was your day? What's new?

Of course,the waterworks began. It was in that moment that I told my dad how lately I've been drowning in school work, no, the college life. He responded with what I've been needing to hear for the last twenty years of my life. Truthfully, I think every person could use his advice now and forever.

Here's what he told me:

Before the break-up of Yugoslavia, my father was doing what any typical young adult would be doing with their life. He was a prospective engineering student, and just like myself, a diligent one. He mentioned the way I had been feeling lately brought him back into his old shoes.

The unimaginable happened. A brief moment in time, and my father found himself not in a classroom, but a concentration camp with other innocent men like himself. It was then he emphasized how life is cheap.

All the little things he would normally get frustrated over in college, at home, or with friends didn't even seem to matter anymore. He had to worry about his life being on the line. He had to take care of himself, yet he was also worrying if he would ever be reunited with his family. He was thinking about how he would get through another day.

The moral to his story is now forever engraved in my mind. It makes me realize my tears and uneasiness won't make changes to my life. There are bigger things to focus my time on. As much as your education should be a top priority, when you weigh it out, it's no match to you and your health overall.

Sometimes, life is going to take you through twists and turns, and you may have to make a few sacrifices (maybe with your sleep schedule or skipping out on a Friday night), but you cannot beat yourself over it each and every time. Give it a rest once in a while. You can only give it your all to a certain extent, until it starts to become an unhealthy habit, and even become an unwanted lifestyle.

Dad, I know you and mom gave up everything you had to give me a better life. You came to a foreign land with absolutely nothing, and took the opportunity to make that nothing into something. You've allowed me to have everything I've ever needed, and wanted to live a simple kind of life.

It was hard for me to understand all the advice you tried to give me before, and I never listened. Now the older I get, the more applicable your advice has been for my life. My eyes have been opened for the first time in a while, and I understand now! I push myself to do the same as you did twenty short years ago, and I hope someday I can return the favor you've given me all these years, and be just as successful and joyful as you are today.

I hope you know your words, and who you are as a person, means the world to your daughter. I am lucky that I was granted you as my role model, my sunshine at the end of the tunnel, and the best dad in the universe.

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10 Things I Have Hypocritically Done As A Parent

I'm not perfect.

I've been a step-parent for a little over a year now.

I do not have any biological children of my own, so this whole experience has been brand new. I love being a Mom. I love my kids.

While I often find myself looking at all three of them and seeing so much joy, love, and delight, there have been a lot of times when the "Do as I say, not as I do," mantra has happened. I admit it, I'm a hypocrite sometimes. I am selfish. I am human.

1. You can't have cookies, cake, dessert for breakfast! It's not healthy.

Immediately go to work and eat cookies, cake, donuts, whatever the vending machine gods have to offer me today. I'm in a hurry. I forgot my breakfast at home because you wouldn't put your shoes on quick enough. I want sugar. Sorry kids.

2. You can't eat that! It's been in the fridge too long.

Because I'm going to eat it later. It's mine. I wants it. My precious....

3. It's time for BED. NOW.

I just want to watch Game of Thrones and you're way to young for that. You need your sleep. It's a school night... or you look really tired... or I just need my fix of Tyrion saying smart-ass things while you're not in the room to repeat them.

4. Don't sit on your phone/ tablet/ computer all day. It's bad for your eyes. Go play outside.

Said from behind my own screen most times.

5. Your friends need to go home before dinner (unless they're invited).

I don't want to do the dishes. That's really all it is. There's five of us already guys, add in a more and the dishwasher, sink and bathtub are full of dishes. I will make you take dishes in with your showers and baths if I have to.

6. We're not getting McDonald's for dinner

Because I already had it for lunch. Shhhh.

7. That game doesn't work

It does, quite well, but you're not mature enough to play it, and I'm done arguing. So it'll be broken until you're 14 or 15.

8. Don't yell.


I'm really bad at this when the dogs get out. Full admission of fault. I get worried sick when the dogs are on the lam. If you're looking for the one thing that will send me into a fully panic-induced rage, it's letting my dogs escape.

9. We can't have any more animals, we're at pawpacity

We can't have any more animals because I know I'll be the one picking up after them when you get bored. Animals are great, taking care of a three-ring circus isn't my thing. One of you wants a bunny and the other wants a snake, I'll get the third one a mongoose and this whole food chain thing will work itself out.

10. The house is not a god-damned jungle gym!

But watch me do burpess in the living room and I can see where you're confused.

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