Sometimes I think about all the five-second friends I've met in bathrooms of bars and wonder how they're doing. I wonder if they're actually as nice as they were when I met them inebriated and we complemented each other until there wasn't anything left to say. Drunk girls in bathrooms are absolutely the best. We are so positive and supportive of each other, if you are feeling down on yourself you can literally just go in the bathroom and there will be a hazy-eyed girl, double fisting vodka sodas telling you how she loves your ombre. This is factual.

I know from experience just how mean I can be to other girls especially when boys or my pride is involved, even to my own sorority sisters. I hold grudges for unreasonably long amounts of time and it is one of my biggest flaws. It can be the littlest thing but if I'm disrespected in any way, I become livid. In the wake of this realization, I have decided to remove these grudges from my mind and be as kind to other girls as I can be.

We're all going through the same things. We all get our hearts broken and we all get a pimple every other day and sometimes wear the same jeans for a few days in a row. I shouldn't judge someone just because whatever is happening with them isn't happening to me at that very moment. Odds are, it has at some point in the past. We should all be as encouraging and positive as a drunk girl in a bathroom. Compliment someone on how bushy their brows are or how their freckles are dusted on their face just right. Bring up the things in people that they can't control, and compliment them. It will make you a better person through this.

There is nothing wrong with kindness, and just because your friend hates someone doesn't necessarily mean you have to either. I'm all up for girl code but carrying the burden of a grudge around day after day isn't healthy for anyone. I found relief in reconciling with the girls I hated for petty reasons, whether they hooked up with someone after I did or brought someone I used to talk to to a social, it isn't worth the stress.

So be a drunk girl in a bathroom. Compliment the things people don't notice. Remove the heavy burden of a grudge from your life and you will be a much happier person for it. It is important to remember that every feeling you've felt, the girl you just called fugly because she spilled a drop of her drink on you has felt as well.