Over the past couple weeks, I've seen several articles arguing whether the girlfriend should be the boyfriend's best friend, or if it's acceptable for him to have a different female for a best friend. I've read these arguments and seen validity in each point, but I have to say I find it all quite dramatic when the simple solution is right in front of us.

This isn't a pick and choose situation.

My boyfriend has a different female best friend and I have a different male best friend. We are still each other's best friend, though. This isn't kindergarten. We don't have to pick and choose one ultimate best pal. We all offer different things to friendships that enrich our lives, and I want my boyfriend's life to be full and happy. Without his other best friend, I'm not sure it would be complete.

I can see the validity in a significant other wanting to be the primary best friend, but what if there is no "primary," and instead we just value friendships as completely separate. I am the person he's in love with, his soulmate, and his partner. She is his pal - a source of laughter and everyday adventures. While I am these things for him, too, he doesn't have to choose one person to get these qualities from. In fact, I want him to be getting these meaningful friendships from as many places as possible. I want him to feel cherished, loved, and wanted.

I think the key thing that can alter this situation is if one feels threatened by their significant other's best friend. My boyfriend's best friend has been nothing but supportive of us. She makes me feel included and like I'm more than just her best friend's girlfriend. That is a total game changer. If she had made me feel intimidated, unwanted, or threatened in the relationship, I would probably be giving a different take on this argument. My boyfriend has pretty good judgment, though, and he picked a good one. If your significant other is truly the right person for you, you should probably trust their judgment, too.

I know that it's easy for me to say all this. I'm not in your shoes or your relationship. When it boils down to it, though, we are not in elementary school anymore. This whole concept of having one ultimate, end-all best friend is, quite frankly, unrealistic. A person can have more than one best friend. They aren't only allowed one source of happiness and joy.

If you are a good best friend, you should want him to be happy in a loving, healthy relationship - one where he can call his significant other his best friend.

If you are a good girlfriend, you should want him to have as many healthy, happy friendships as possible. You should be trying to make his life more full, not isolating him to yourself.

My boyfriend deserves to have more than one amazing best friend. Don't you think yours does, too?