“You ruin your life by desensitizing yourself. We are all afraid to say too much, to feel too deeply, to let people know what they mean to us. Caring is not synonymous with crazy. There is something breathtakingly beautiful in the moments of smaller magic that occur when you strip down and are honest with those who are important to you.” – Bianca Sparacino

Our generation is messed up. Now hear me out. Our generation makes us feel it’s okay not to care. We don’t want to care too much about someone. Or rather, we don’t prioritize the things we should be caring about and those we should learn to let go.

I think some people think I am naïve. I care about others whether or not they have given me a reason to stop. I firmly believe in second, third, and fourth chances because someday I can only hope that those will be given to me when I make a mistake. I believe that there is nothing wrong with not giving up on people. I want to believe in the good in those I love.

My goal in life is to always do what I am afraid to do. It is scary to care deeply for someone especially when things have gone wrong with others in the past. People can be deceiving and make you feel special, and when they leave you, you lose your way.

I’m not saying that the jerk who cheated on you is worth four more chances. Perhaps the problem is not how much you love people but the quality of the people that you love. Give endless amounts of love and compassion towards the people who prove that they are worth it.

The majority of our generation is so scared of living. We are afraid of commitment. We create walls that are nearly impossible to break down. We have meaningless conversations with others because we don’t ever want to share our actual thoughts. We ask basic questions and have boring relationships. We like not caring because it protects us from the feeling of hurt.

But what if we went beyond this. What if everyone was able to get over this weird dynamic and let themselves be who they truly are? What if we cared deeply about one another and it was returned? What if instead of going over to someone’s house to watch a movie, we went out for dinner and talked about the people we love and the things that inspire us.

I get it, it is both a blessing and a curse to feel everything so deeply. It is hard to constantly feel like you are the person who cares more and who does more to maintain a relationship, but when you find the right person it will never feel like a one-way street. Wait for this person, but do not wait in fear.

Do not be afraid to get hurt. Live your life freely and give your thoughts and feelings to others because in the end you will regret the things you didn’t say more than the things that you did. Be real with you truly are and allow people to see you. Be courageous.

Let that your friend know that she motivates you to be a better person. Tell the boy how you really feel about him. Express yourself. Open up to the world, do not make yourself cold, and be bold in who you are. There is courage in that.