We're All Doing It Wrong

We're All Doing It Wrong

In order to obtain a life you're truly happy with, sacrifice what you think life is supposed to be like.


The expectations of life are detrimental but ubiquitous. We are expected to go to school. Get an education, plus maybe a couple more years of schooling if you're fancy. Then we enter the workforce. Work 9am-5pm. Start a family. And repeat the 9am-5pm, day to day routine.

For some, this satisfies. I will not judge or say this is wrong. If you are truly happy with the systemized lifestyle expectations and the structured life, then I am happy for you. You cannot condemn happiness.

But on my quest for a life I have chosen, not settled for, I understand that I crave more than the societal expectations pressed upon a young girl with the world before her. We have this idea of what life is "supposed" to be like. But what if we are entirely wrong?

I used to care. A little bit too much honestly. I used to yearn for a big office and long work weeks that was married with high status and the approval and admiration of others. After a need to discover my true happiness, however, I know that this is not my passion, but the inner voice telling me to please others that I could not seem to extinguish.

However, now is my time, and your time, to make the decisions that will shape our lives. I aspire to live a life that isn't in wait of the weekends. That is a waste.

I want to move people and change lives. I want to see that my work is making a positive impact on the world. I want to travel and see new sights and indulge in different cultures, understand humanity and all that life has granted us.

We have an entire world to explore. We have oceans, seas, continents, and skies to probe and take advantage of. I cannot waste this miracle, and neither should you.

Drop the idea that money comes first. I am not naive and I am aware that we all need money to survive. What I am saying is that it shouldn't be the only thing that matters. Other people's projections of you should not matter. Make connections, touch lives, make a difference in the world. Do what you actually enjoy, no matter what that is. Sacrifice societal status for happiness.

At the end of your life, the amount of money in your bank account won't matter. The lives you've impacted and the memories you've made a will. Do not allow society and the expectations of others to trap you. Find what will fuel your individual happiness and go after it.

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A Letter To My Freshman Dorm Room As I Pack Up My Things

Somehow a 15' x 12' room became a home.


Dear Geary 411,

With your creaky beds, concrete walls, and mismatched tile floors, you are easily overlooked as just another room we were randomly assigned to— but you were different. Inside your old walls, I have made some of the best memories of my life that I will hold on to forever.

Thank you for welcoming my neighbors in with open arms who quickly became friends who didn't knock and walked in like you were their own.

I feel like an apology is needed.

We're sorry for blaring the music so loud while getting ready and acting like we can actually sing when, in reality, we know we can't. Sorry for the dance parties that got a bit out of control and ended with us standing on the desks. Sorry for the cases of the late-night giggles that came out of nowhere and just would not go away. Sorry for the homesick cries and the "I failed my test" cries and the "I'm dropping out" cries. We're sorry for hating you at first. All we saw was a tiny and insanely hot room, we had no idea what you would bring to us.

Thank you for providing me with memories of my first college friends and college experiences.

As I stand at the door looking at the bare room that I first walked into nine months ago I see so much more than just a room. I see lots and lots of dinners being eaten at the desks filled with stories of our days. I see three girls sitting on the floor laughing at God knows what. I see late night ice cream runs and dance battles. I see long nights of homework and much-needed naps. Most importantly, I look at the bed and see a girl who sat and watched her parents leave in August and was absolutely terrified, and as I lock you up for the last time today, I am so proud of who that terrified girl is now and how much she has grown.

Thank you for being a space where I could grow, where I was tested physically, mentally and emotionally and for being my home for a year.


A girl who is sad to go

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What I Wish I Knew About Life After High School Before I Had To Live It

Life after high school isn't always what you expected it to be.


So you're about to graduate high school and you think you have it all figured out. You and your best friends are going to stay close throughout college and you're going to take those long road trips in college to see each other. Think again.

Life after high school isn't always what you want it to be. You think you'll miss high school, you'll always be close with your high school besties, and you'll have all this free time in college. That's just not entirely true. I personally do not miss high school. I don't really talk to anyone I went to high school with on a regular basis, and I'm totally OK with that. I have friends in college that I believe will be my lifelong friends whereas my friends in high school didn't make an effort to keep in contact with me after high school.

I haven't had all the free time I've dreamed of in college, because I'm busy with school and meetings. When I'm not doing homework, I'm making sure the rest of my life is in order and all my stuff for school is in line. I'm not the crazy party girl that people think I am because of where I go to school. I'd rather sit in bed and watch Netflix than go out with my friends. I'm not a 4.0 student, but I work so hard in my classes just to make sure that I'm passing. I study a week before tests and still don't always make A's. And that's OK. It's not what I expected during my college years, but it's what's happening, and most of my friends are the same way.

Anne Marie Bonadio

Just know that life in college isn't all easy, breezy, and beautiful like Covergirl. It's hard and you will struggle whether it be in school or with your friends. College isn't always complete freedom. You'll be tied down with school and life and you won't have the free time that you always imagined. You won't always be best friends with your high school friends. You won't be taking those road trips because you won't be able to afford them, and if you're like me, your parents won't let you.

College won't be exactly what you dreamed it'll be, but it'll be some of the best years of your life.

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