We All Matter To Someone

We All Matter To Someone

"I promise you do, you matter too."
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The lyrics above come from one of my favorite songs from the new musical Waitress. If you haven’t heard the song “You Matter to Me,” I encourage you to give it a listen:

After writing my article last week about love and relationships, and scrolling through my news feed on Valentine’s day and seeing so many adorable couple’s photos, I started to think about people that I love and care about. There are so many people in my life that matter to me, and I am so incredibly thankful for them. There have been years in the past when I have felt super depressed and lonely on Valentine’s day because I didn’t have a significant other, but this year I didn’t mind. There are so many people in my life that I love, and I know they love me back.

See, we all have people that matter to us, whether it be a significant other or not, and I’m sure those people value us every bit as much. I’m sure many people have a spouse or significant other that matters to them, but I currently do not, so recently I have been thinking about all the people in my life that matter to me.

I have my lifelong best friend, whom I go to for everything. I thank God all the time for bringing her into my life, and I don’t know what I would do without her. She matters to me.

I have my amazing friends here at Judson; my original friend group that I found my freshman year, and some newly made education major friends. These guys always have my back, and are always there when I need them. We worship together, laugh, study, and act crazy; they matter to me.

I have my friends back home from high school, and even though it’s challenging to get together when we’re all home on break, I can still text them with an old inside joke and expect a response. They matter to me.

I have my children. Not literally my children of course, but the little ones I take care of. I have been babysitting for almost nine years, and I have been able to watch many children grow up, and it’s awesome to be a part of their lives. They matter to me.

I have my mom, who I quite honestly never thought I would miss so much while away at school. She calls me her clone, which is fitting, because we are almost exactly alike. She’s taught me so much, and deserves the world, which I will probably never be able to give her. She matters to me.

I have my dad, who is helping me get through school, and teaching me about life. From him I learn the important things, like how to change a tire, or fill out tax information. He matters to me.

I have my sister, who may not talk to me a lot while I’m away at school, but is always good to laugh with her when I come home for a visit. She matters to me.

Most importantly, I have Jesus Christ. He lives in my heart where I have asked Him to stay, and will be there forever. He matters most.

As I stated in my last article, I can’t wait to meet the man that God has in store for me, but I don’t need one to tell me that I matter. I know I matter to all these people, and because of that, there’s plenty of love in my life. And whether you know it or not, “I promise you do, you matter too.”

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Losing A Grandparent Changed My Life

Live for them, and give them a legacy to be proud of.
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Death isn’t what the average 20-something thinks about every day. You don’t think it will happen to you, or the people around you. You know that it exists because you see heart-wrenching reports on the news daily of another life lost to ignorance or hate.

Yes, losing a grandparent definitely changes your life. For some of us, it's a drastic change. To others: they knew it was coming. Still, some weren't even close to their grandparents because they lived too far away from each other to build a relationship in person.

I can't even fathom that considering both of my grandparents lived a city away from me or across town. They are your second set of parents and the love you've had for your entire life. They are the lessons learned and the ones holding your hand through it all.

When my grandfather died (affectionately known to me as Papa), my life changed. I watched him take his last breath in the hospital alone. I called my mother to tell her that her father died. In that moment: my emotionally sheltered life was torn apart. In that moment: I had to grow up. The person I had leaned on my entire life was gone.

I literally reconsidered everything I had done in my life in a matter of hours. I thought about college, finally graduating and walking across that stage: cords swinging and my tassel hanging there. That was his biggest dream for me, we were only a year away from it when he left this earth.

When a grandparent passes they take a part of you: big or small. When you were younger you planned out life with them. You shared your dreams with them, your insecurities, your childish ways and most of all you shared your love.

They, in turn, taught you lessons about life, helped you realize those dreams, and never let you go without being told you were loved every single time they saw you. They are the suppliers of happiness, security, and laughs. Friends come and go, but your family stays with you forever.

The bottom line is: most everyone knows what it's like to lose a grandparent. We all cope differently, and leaning on others is the best way to keep yourself up. Facing the reality of death is the only way we can accept it and move on. Moving on doesn't mean forgetting, it means understanding. We were lucky enough to have these amazing people to guide us through our younger years, teaching us these vital lessons.

I can't tell you how many times a day I wish I had my papa back. Learning to cope without them is the hardest part, even years later. Grandparents prepare you for life's greatest gains. Little did they know they would be their grandchildren's biggest loss. Live for them, and give them a legacy to be proud of.

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What It Is Really Like Having Sisters Close To Your Age

While having siblings close to your age is pretty amazing, there can be a lot of issues that can come with it.

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I come from a family of 5 people and 1 dog. I have 2 sisters, Grace and Caroline. We are all pretty close in age, Caroline being the youngest and 3 years younger than me.

My sisters and I share a bond like no one else, no one can replicate it. When you have siblings close to your age you have built-in best friends, and since they are around your age you have the same interest, or at least, enough so that you can do things that other siblings cannot. Examples of this would be seeing R-Rated movies and going to the mall without too much complaining, along with being able to shop in the same stores or even share clothes. Grace and I sometimes even split the cost of a shirt we both like.

We even overlap friend groups! Which is not much of a problem for us, Grace and I are both in music programs which overlap enough for us to have the same friends, which is great for when one of us has a sleepover, the other can join in on the fun. Caroline, however, even though she is seen as the sporty one of the 3 of us, she still has a lot of friends who have similar interests as Grace or I, giving us a lot of the same friends. It's nice not to be considered the "cool older sister", I am just like the rest of them.

While we do fight a lot, we make up really quickly, because most issues we have are stupid sibling fights: who gets the T.V., what to have for dinner, what movie to see. But it is always fun because there are 3 of us, which means majority rules, something we tend to go by most of the time depending on the situation.

Having 3 teenagers in the house can be a handful for our parents though, when you have three teenage girls going through puberty at relatively the same time, it can be grueling, especially when you are all on your period at the same time.. (yes, that has happened before) (and yes, it sucks). While I am on the topic, let's say a prayer and a thank you to my dad for dealing with 5 girls (including the dog, obviously) because he does a pretty damn good job at dealing with all of us.

When we were younger, we always had a play date even when one was canceled. We all made up songs and dances and would perform them for our parents. We even had a band called The Halsey Sisters (AKA the female version of The Jonas Brothers) where we had a hit song called "We Got The Heart and Soul". It was a hell of a time. Let's just say the music video for that song is, interesting to say the least.

At the end of the day, I wouldn't switch my sisters for anything in the world, they are my rocks, and I wouldn't want it any other way, Grace, Caroline, keep doing what you're doing, because you're pretty damn awesome.

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