6 small Things I'm Doing To Change My Life

6 small Things I'm Doing To Change My Life

I'm not just trying to lose weight. I'm trying to love myself completely.


I can't remember a time when I was "okay" with my body.

When I hit puberty I became hyper-aware of the way my body looked and with that, the realization that my body didn't look like everyone else's. In middle school, being different is not good.

Things got a little better in high school, and as I now enter my senior year of college I'm changing my lifestyle for the long run.

1. Understand that every body is a good body.

Before I could change the way I looked I had to change the way I felt. Exercising and eating healthy is not a punishment for being too fat, but a good way to nourish yourself in a way that's loving.

2. Don't pay attention to the scale.

Weight is not an accurate representation of health. Weight loss should be secondary to feeling stronger and more confident.

3. Make short term goals.

I like to focus things on a week-by-week basis. Here are some of my short-term goals:

- Go to the gym at least four times this week.

- Learn to make one healthy recipe that also tastes good.

- Make time to do things I like (reading, scrolling social media, napping).

- Learn a new workout move.

All of these things I could do easily in a week. You'll have more opportunities to feel accomplishment, and if you don't reach them the tasks are simple enough to not destroy your progress.

4. Start working on something that you already like.

You would think my focus at the gym would be on making my waist smaller because that's where I have the most to lose. It's not! You're way more likely to find me doing squats and deadlifts than crunches. Why? Because I already like my ass and I think my legs are strong af.

I'd rather work on them and continue to build that confidence than start at square one somewhere else and risk discouragement.

5. Learn what serving sizes are.

It's not the food you're eating, but the amount you're eating. Allow yourself to indulge but in appropriate quantities. You will save calories and money at the same time!

6. Be open minded.

To new foods, new types of workouts, and to what you consider progress. Try new things! Learn new things about yourself. don't expect results to happen quickly or the way you want them too.

Changing your lifestyle is a marathon, not a sprint. Do things at your own pace. Remember that this isn't a diet or a fad, this is your life! If the changes you make aren't fulfilling, don't be afraid to restart. You will kill this!

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

SEE ALSO: Finding A Husband In College

Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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Just Because You're Not Where You Want To Be Now Doesn't Mean You'll Never Get There, So Stop Running

Work toward your future, but don't miss the beauty of where you are right now.


What do you want to do with your life? Where are you trying to go? Where are you now?

What motivates you? Are you afraid you'll never get where you want to go?

Why are you rushing through life?

Ferris Bueller once said...

And it's true.

But sometimes it feels like you're running out of time. Sometimes it feels like if you're not where you want to be now, you'll never get there. Sometimes it feels like you constantly have to run to the next part of life.

And that's not true.

You have time.

I know that's easy to hear and harder to actually listen to. It's something I've struggled with too.

I haven't traveled to all the places I want to visit. I haven't written a book. And I haven't bought a house with a wrap-around porch. Yet.

Because that's not where my life is now.

I haven't been to California, but I've been to Washington, DC. I haven't written a book, but I have an English degree. I'm not in a financial place to buy a house, but I am renting a great apartment. Because that's where my life is right now.

Before this stage in my life, I felt behind. I was always looking ahead to where I wanted to be—to what I thought I deserved. I couldn't be content with where I was. I was in college working toward the future, but I was so focused on the future, I sometimes ignored what was going on day to day. I felt rushed. I couldn't wait to graduate and get out of there.

But now, I'm graduated. I'm in the "there," and yet I'm still looking toward the future in the same way. I can be so focused on getting to where my life can "start." But the thing is, my life has been happening all around me.

It's a pretty obvious statement. Yet, it's one I often need to tell myself. I need to remind myself to live in the present. It's taken me a while to change my mindset but it's not impossible.

You can change your mindset too if you need to.

In the present, you can stop for a minute, look around and enjoy your life. In the present, you can also work toward your future in a healthy way. You can take the time to figure out the best way for you to get where you want to be while still slowing down to live in the present.

And if you find yourself discontent with where you are, make a list of what you can do now to get there. Research jobs. Plan your classes. Work on your hobbies. Take some time to rest well.

I'm not behind. You're not behind either. You don't need to rush through your life.

Stop running.

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