Heartbreak.
It's something that every single person has gone through at some point in their life. When we experience a heartbreak ourselves, life becomes an emotional roller coaster. It's something that can simply consume a person. We spend so much time thinking about what we could have done differently... what we could have changed about ourselves to make it better. Heartbreak brings sadness, depression, low self-esteem and so many other negative feelings into our lives. Heartbreak is so unpleasant and often times takes a very long period of time to overcome.
I think experiencing someone else's heartbreak is just as painful as going through your own. Whether it be your sister, your best friend or really anyone in between, watching someone that you are close to go through a heartbreak is just plain... heartbreaking. It hurts equally as much to see someone go through such a rough time in their lives.
When you experience your own heartbreak, you are in control of your feelings. There are so many times when it seems impossible to get out of bed, but you know you need to be strong and get up. When someone else is going through a heartbreak, you can't tell them what to do. They are in control of their feelings. As much as you want to shake the person and tell them to get up and be strong, you cannot, because it is completely up to them.
It is also extremely difficult to see someone you are close to be sad in general. Someone could be upset over the smallest thing, such as a bad test grade, or a frustrating day at work, and it would still crush me. So, when someone is upset over a more serious issue—such as a heartbreak—it is horrible. It isn't fair to see someone so crushed over a boy who obviously can't see how beautiful and amazing your loved one is.
You can't tell someone going through heartbreak these things, however. She may be the most beautiful, fun-loving person you have ever met, but you can't tell her that because she won't believe you. She is vulnerable and hurt, so hearing compliments goes in one ear and out the other. This is the worst part about experiencing someone else's heartbreak. You just want the person to know how much they mean to you as well as so many others, and they can't see that.
If there is anything that I've learned in life so far, it's that you should always put others before yourself. Keeping this in mind, experiencing a heartbreak through someone else is just as hurtful as going through your own heartbreak. You have to learn to be strong for the person who is hurting, and even when they don't want to hear it, remind them how absolutely amazing they really are. Spread the positivity and just remember to love the person unconditionally because someday the person going through the heartbreak will see how much they mean to you.
