I can recall times where one of my now ex-boyfriends would say that after breaking up I never "gave him time to miss me". I would try to rekindle that flame before it ever really burned out and my attempts to get him to come back ever so quickly were deemed "too desperate".

There were days I would walk into the same room he was in just to acknowledge his presence and strike up a conversation, but he would exit the room as soon as I entered muttering the words "You're too clingy".

And after arguments my only request was that we remain under the same roof until things cooled down and I remember being convinced my only requirement was "too ridiculous".

I, like most women, overthink about everything. I understand it can sometimes be a problem but I have also learned from past experiences to trust my gut instincts and I could always tell when he would pull away both mentally and emotionally. However, when I brought up these concerns he just told me I was being "too paranoid".

I'm a girl, I like to go out, I like to be shown off, and I like spending time outside of the quarters of our living room together. Now, I'm not saying a five star restaurant and hotel room is a necessity because it's not. I like cheesy picnic dates and star gazing just as much as the next girl but my craving for date nights and alone time with no technology was at an all time high but when I brought up these ideas my suggestions were shot down with a snide "You're tooneedy".

I was made to believe that I was "too" in everything that I did. Too affectionate, too worrisome, too talkative, and even too damaged- just to name a few.

After being reminded day in and day out that I was "too" anything and everything I began to change. I started to mold myself and my personality to fit his expectations and instead of being the woman who was "too" I just wanted to finally be the woman who was "enough" in his eyes.

This forever has been one of my biggest regrets. When I tried changing myself I ended up losing those parts of me that made me the woman I was and that's something that I can never get back. I will never be the person I was before that relationship as much as I wish I were. I don't love the same, I don't trust as easily, and I sure as hell don't answer to someone's every beck and call anymore.

Let me let you in on a little secret: You're only "too" for the wrong man.

So, the moment you feel like you're not enough, the moment you feel like you would be better if you just did this instead of this, or the moment he makes you feel inferior in any way- walk.

It took me more time than I'm proud to admit, but eventually I realized that the only "too" that I was, was too good for him.

Because while you're hurting your feet trying your hardest to fit into a shoe size that's "too small" there's a brand new pair sitting in the window of a store right down the road that will fit just right. Therefore, take your time, window shop for awhile if you need to just don't ever settle on a pair of shoes that you have to curl your toes in order to wear.