I think we’ve all heard it once: “You’re going to marry someone like your dad,” and for some people it terrifies them, but for me, I embrace it.
No, I do not have “daddy issues” and no it’s not some creepy obsession. I honestly just love how my dad treats my mom and how he treats my siblings and I. He is the best husband and father, and I want someone just like him.
My parents are going on 24 years of marriage in October, and their marriage is stronger than ever. I never have to fear them getting a divorce or sleeping in separate rooms. I never have to hide in my room because they are having a screaming match or walk into a room where my mom is crying. Who wouldn’t what that?
The truth is, my dad is obnoxious, always thinks he’s right, and gets on my nerves like all the time, but he is extremely thoughtful, loving, and caring to my mother.
As I write this, I watch him at 11 o’clock at night cooking my mom onion soup because when we went to Ruth Chris tonight, it wasn’t on their menu like it usually is and she loves their soup.
For her birthday, he got her a picture frame of the family on our recent trip to New York, which doesn’t seem super special, but when he takes the time to go through the photos of our 10-day trip to find good pictures of her, with his main concern being that the picture has the kids and her, then it is special.
He works all day and when he just wants to watch television downstairs he gives it up just so she can play video games with us. And when my mother is losing majorly to the kids in the video game, my dad will cheer her on even when the majority of the time he has no clue what is going on.
So many times in my childhood my dad has made me run around the house giving my mother love letters just so she can smile. So many times my dad called my siblings and I to wherever he is in the house to fold the laundry or unload the dishwasher so when mom gets home she doesn’t have to.
He loves my mother’s mom unconditionally and taught my brother, sister, and I to always give our grandma a hug and a kiss every time we walk past her because he knows our grandma appreciates it and in return it makes my mother happy. I mean can you name a single wife who doesn’t just love when their husband has no issues with his mother-in-law
Now I am not saying he is the perfect husband and that their marriage is perfect because I have seen them yell at each other, but neither of them ever give up, they always forgive each other, and they love each other without a shadow of a doubt.
I am also not implying my mom is not super thoughtful and loving to her husband because that is not the case. She will tell us to mow the lawn so our dad doesn’t have to or she will cook the dinner, so when he gets home he doesn’t have to worry.
But, I do not want to marry my mother. I want to be the kind of wife she is to my dad and the mother that she to my siblings and I. I do know, that I want a guy who treats me like my dad treats my mom, who treats my children like he treats my sister, brother, and I, and how through all the good and the bad loves me unconditionally like my dad loves my mom.
