Open Relationships: Those who dont want to lose passion

Open Relationships: Those who dont want to lose passion

Some girls are Vanilla some not so much

     Open relationships get a lot of backlash because it’s became more of a millennial way of life. You're devoted to one partner while having small insignificant flings. As a girl who loves to live her life to the fullest I've never saw the issue with this as long as there is a understanding. With me and my partners I've always struggled because of my need for freedom and the boredom I get from not having fun. This doesn't mean sleeping with several different guys, if it does for you then no judgment it’s making you happy and you're living your best life. For me it’s always meant meeting different people and experiencing different personalities, but at the same time my main focus be my main partner.

It’s hard to know what you want on life especially when it comes to love. Most girls want the same thing however, Passion. That feeling you have with someone where you feel alive like in the movies. Yes you can get it but keeping it is harder. You see him for the first time and it’s like a magnet pulled you to him, then you start talking. It seems like everything is going right you have his attention. But the real question is how long can I keep his attention?

    You become exclusive and you know it, that you have him but that’s where things go down. Now that you have each other you no longer need to play the game. You don’t have to work for each others feelings they’re just expected because you’re together. As a girl who needs to feel burning passion and the thrill, what is the fun in that? The honeymoon phase is gone that spark you had together when the feelings were hidden is gone because now, you’re a Vanilla couple. You can't have that fun thrill of being chased, of having the craving that yeah we're looking at others but I want them to want me. You just know they want you and you do couple things.

    When out you have no need to stick out from the other girls because you’re on his arm. Those guys who would droll at you and do anything for your attention it’s gone because of that title. That freedom to go out with whoever and still have each other is gone. That’s what the open relationship is all about. Given not all girls can handle the passion that comes with an open relationship, some need a guy devoted to them and giving all attention to her and that's fine to be a vanilla couple. But some girls need a passionate relationship that comes with the devotion but without that attention because that can become a bore.Freedom, you both are devoted to each other but you have to work to keep that passion. He’s going to some other girls place, well I’m gonna be all he’s thinking about while there. You make sure that he wants you romantically while being sexually involved with others. 

Well what if he leaves me for some other girl? It’s all about knowing how you both feel without having to say it, and having fun. That passion remains cause not only do you get to learn ways to bring up the heat with your partner you're enjoying each other and freedom. All people need freedom in life mainly you get this in college but as you get older you want that relationship and you can still have it during an open relationship. Once you get to that point in your life where you're done chasing that feeling of being alive you can stop being open. Most people practice this in their 20’s for the reason you're young and wanna have fun you want the passion and commitment but you want to experience all life has to offer. It’s okay to always want more because you only have this life once.


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An Open Letter To My Boyfriend's Mom

A simple thank you is not enough.

Your son and I have been dating a while now and I just wanted to thank you for everything.

Wow, where do I start? Ever since the day your son brought me into your home you have shown me nothing but kindness. I have not one negative thought about you and I am truly thankful for that. I first and foremost want to thank you for welcoming me with open arms. There are horror stories of mothers resenting their son's girlfriends and I am blessed there is no resentment or harsh feelings.

Thank you for treating me like one of your children, with so much love but knowing exactly when to tease me.

Thank you for sticking up for me when your son teases me, even though I know it’s all in good fun it's always comforting knowing you have someone by your side.

Thank you for raising a man who respects women and knows how to take responsibility of mistakes and not a boy who is immature and doesn’t take responsibility.

Thank you for always including me in family affairs, I may not be blood family but you do everything you can to make sure I feel like I am.

Thank you for letting me make memories with your family.

There is nothing I value more in this world then memories with friends and family and I am thankful you want and are willing to include me in yours. I have so much to thank you for my thoughts keep running together.

The most important thing I have to thank you for is for trusting me with your son. I know how precious and valuable he is and I won't break his heart. I will do everything I can to make him happy. This means more than you could ever imagine and I promise I will never break your trust.

The second most important thing I must thank you for is for accepting me for who I am. Never have you ever wished I looked like another girl or acted like another girl. You simply love and care for me and that’s all I could ever ask. Every person in this world is a unique different person and understanding that means a lot.

The third most important thing I must thank you is teaching me how to one day in the future treat a potential girlfriend that I may interact with as a mother. I am not a mother, but I one day plan to be. If I ever have a son it is because of how you treated me that I am able to be a humble loving mother to this new face that could one day walk into my door. How you have treated me has taught me how I should one day be in the future and I thank you for that.

This may seem all over the place but that’s how my brain gets when I try and thank you for everything you have done for me. It’s all so much and even the little things are so important so I promise my scattered thoughts are all with good intentions and not meant to bombard you. I just want to get the idea across to you that you are important and special to me and everything you do does not go unnoticed.


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10 Things Girls Secretly Love

Come on guys — take a hint.


Let's face it, girls can be a little stubborn at times and not directly come out and say what they want. But, a few of these should be obvious clues that boys should be able to pick up on. So I have comprised a short list of at least ten obvious things girls, or at least I secretly love.

1. Leave her cute texts

Quickest way to put a smile on her face or leave butterflies in her stomach is to send her a cute text. Even if it's simple

2. Kiss her in front of your friends

Don't be one of those guys that treats your girlfriend/SO differently because you are around your friends. It validates that she really means something to you if you still show her off around your friends.

3. Tell her she looks beautiful

Even if she denies it and says she looks gross, you've still managed to get her attention and show her you think she's beautiful no matter what.

4. Kiss her forehead

5. Let her take photos of you

Slight obsession over your boyfriend is normal, I promise, she just thinks your adorable.

6. Tell her when you have something to do, don't just ignore her randomly

Most girls won't be mad when you have something else to do. It's the fact that you couldn't take the time to send a text that would probably take a minute to write to let her know you aren't just dodging her messages.

7. Play with her hair

If she does it for you, then you do it for her. Don't just let her play with your hair for a half hour then run your fingers through her hair twice and think your done. No, we want the relaxing feeling of fingers running through our hair too.

8. Watch movies with her

You don't always need to go out and do something active, watching a movie and cuddling is nice too. Netflix and Chill

9. Let her fall asleep on you

10. Be her best friend

Sometimes all you need is someone to laugh at stupid jokes with, sing loudly in the car with, or just sit in silence and listen to the world outside a car window.

Every girl wants to feel special and treated the right way in a relationship. But just as girls are stubborn, guys are just a little bit clueless. So take notes boys.

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