I started dating at the age of 17. I fell in love with the same guy who I’m celebrating our two year anniversary with this week. He is the first person I held hands with and the first person I fell in love with. As time goes on, I feel like I fall more and more in love with him every day.
After the one year mark, I started thinking and I realize that I really want my first boyfriend to be my last.
Even though many people think that it is old fashioned and maybe even “lame,” I think the idea is beautiful. The idea of loving only one person for your entire life sounds beautiful and like a fairy tale. Also, from the way many people have described it to me, dating doesn’t seem that fun. It seems to be filled with awkward conversations, nervous pauses and anxiety all together.
Many people have said, “But dating is fun. You’re missing out on so much.” However, after all this time, I realized I don’t need all of that. I would rather learn more and more each day about that one person that means the world to me instead of learning meaningless facts about other guys that I don’t feel like I’m meant to be with. I think it’s a beautiful concept knowing that when you get married and start a family you can tell your kids that their father was the only person in your life.
I feel like many people are sucked into society. Nowadays, many people do things because that is how they feel they should act. That is one of the reasons dating and relationships have lost their true meaning and romanticism. That is also the reason why many people complain about not finding the right guy or about the way dating now works.
The main reason why I want my first boyfriend to be my last is because I fell in love with a great guy. I was lucky enough to fall in love with someone who respects and understands me. Someone who, with all my flaws, stills sees me how he saw me the first time we met. With everything that is going on today, it is hard to find a genuinely nice guy, but I found one. Therefore, I don’t ever want to go through this process called “love” with anyone else but him. This is why I want to grow old with him and be by his side for as long as I can.
No judgement against anyone who likes to date, but it just isn’t for me. I like having that one person for the rest of my life and that should be okay.
