“In your closet full of clothes, you say you have nothing to wear. Be that selective in the guys you choose.”
I don’t mean that lightly, wait for him. Wait for that guy. You deserve so much more than "Netflix and chill."
Wait for the guy who takes you out.
I don’t mean, "takes you out to a fancy restaurant or to a movie." I just mean take you out. Wait for the guy who wants to take you everywhere he goes, whether it’s to go grocery shopping or to the mall to pick out a new pair of pants. Wait for that guy who is proud to call you his and wants everyone to know. I don’t mean this in a way of making you sound like a trophy, but in a way that he feels lucky to have someone like you by his side and doesn’t care who knows it. Always remember: "If he doesn’t claim you in the streets, he can’t claim you in the sheets.”
Wait for the guy who has manners.
Please and thank you go along way and you don’t want to be with a guy who doesn’t know that. If you have a guy who can be handed something and he just walks away and doesn’t say thank you, leave. Leave immediately. Also, wait for the guy who opens doors for you. Car doors, restaurant doors, or even house doors, wait for the guy who rushes ahead of you just so they can open the door for you before you get there. Chivalry is not dead.
Wait for the guy who respects you.
Not only you, but your family and his as well. I was raised in a household were respect was big. You don’t swear in front of your great grandparents and you always give up your seat when someone older wants to sit down. Wait for the guy who says "yes ma’am" and "no, sir" and shakes your dad's hand when he meets him. If a guy is willing to disrespect your family or his own, he’s likely to disrespect you in the future. Being a disrespectful jerk isn’t cute or attractive — don’t fall for that.
Wait for guy who prays with you.
Jesus died on the cross for you and he won’t settle until he leads a man with the same dedication to you. When you dance with Jesus, he will let the perfect guy cut in. Don’t settle for anything less than that. How great does a guy who leads you closer to God sound? He’ll understand you need love and tender care and he will make sure you get nothing less than that. He has a plan for you and you have to trust that.
Wait for the guy who remembers the little things.
Wait for the guy who remembers how you like your coffee or how your bunny died when you were younger and how you refuse to get rid of the cage. Wait for the guy who knows you get sick if you don’t eat and makes you food when you say you haven’t ate all day, even when you say you’re not hungry. Someday you’re going to meet someone who actually listens when you tell them things. Not just things about you but things about your past, about your family and friends, about school, about anything. Someone is going to listen very intently to every word you say and will remember it, wait for that guy.
Lastly, but most importantly...
Wait for the guy who tells you he loves you, and means it.
Wait for the guy who when he says it, you can see so much love and affection in his eyes. Love isn’t meant to be easy. You’re going to have fights, but find a love worth fighting for. Wait for the guy who says he loves you because you are you. Because he loves the way you hair falls so perfectly or because he loves the way the natural sunlight makes your eyes shine or because you play with your hair when you get nervous or because your laugh makes him fall in love all over again. Don’t be with the guy who tells you he loves you just to get you into bed. Wait for the guy who, when he says he loves you, you know he means it. Wait for the guy that, when you kiss him, you can taste the next 60 years of your life on his lips.
Don’t take random guys home from the bar because you are drunk. You deserve more than that.
Don’t settle for someone because you think there is no one else out there for you, because there is, and you will find him. I promise it’s worth the wait. When you meet that guy, you’ll finally understand why it never worked out with anyone else.
