For some individuals waiting till marriage to have sex is a religious choice, however, if you are an individual like me, my faith does not have any impact as to when I should or should not have sex. I am choosing to wait until marriage and until I find the right spouse for myself to experience those attributes of life.
Now, during this article by no means is my goal to make those who have had sex prior to marriage or already had sex, in general, feel awful or wrong about the choices they have made in regards to their own personal lives and bodies. I am simply here to speak my mind about the choices I am deciding to make and how you should not let society make you feel or not feel a certain way in regards to your sex life.
Your body is your own temple to do as you choose with it, no one else has a say in what you do with your body!
My main goal is to reach out to individuals who are still virgins like me who feel as though people downgrade them or look at them differently simply because they are either in their twenties or in college and are still a virgin. Starting college does not mean you have to jump into sex if you are not ready to, there is no "right of passage." At the end of the day if you want to have sex or you decide you do not want to have sex do not feel ashamed for whatever choice you are making with your body. There are so many individuals around you who are probably feeling the same exact way and feel the pressures from society and the media to party, have sex, and go wild while away at college.
Staying true to your own beliefs and your own morals, what you should or should not do might seem hard to keep while away at college, but do not let the pressures of others get to you. I know that is easier said than done. However, we are all our own commanders and we all decide when we believe is the right or wrong time to do things when it comes to our bodies and our lives.
For some, having sex before marriage is the normal action to take, for me it is not. I feel as though sex should be with the person I am going to spend the rest of my life with and want a family with some day. That is why I have personally made the decision to wait until marriage.
Yes, still being a virgin at twenty years old and in college can be tough, especially when it comes to relationships. Regardless of who you are dating, you should never feel as though you have to have sex with them in order to keep them in your life and the relationship going. Having sex, not having sex, whichever one you decide is up to you and no other. Be in a relationship that the other person will be able to handle whichever choice you make, never change your beliefs or the morals you have set for yourself just to keep your significant other.
Relationships are already complicated and hard, adding sex can complicate things even further. Your relationship needs to be about connecting with each other on a deeper level and forming that everlasting bond. After you have built trust and know without a doubt that this man or women are the right ones for you then can you bring sex into the relationship?
Having trust in one another and knowing that he or she will not leave the relationship after you bring sex into it is a huge deal. I know that these words of guidance are not for everyone, but I do hope that these words touch the hearts of many and you realize that you are not alone in still being a virgin. Do not feel disgusted with yourself, be proud that you are sticking with your own beliefs and morals. Trust in yourself to make the right decision when the time comes!
