Go ahead and start picking out your future prospects, you don't want to be forever alone.

I feel kind of badly writing about Valentine’s Day, especially because it isn't February, but the topic has been on my mind. Coming to you from seventeen lovely years of single Valentine’s Days, I can sympathize with the single ladies and guys --but, good gracious, stop begging for a Valentine on Twitter, Facebook, etc. I do not understand the logic of posting desperate statuses or tweets.

I’m not sure why this is such a pet peeve for me, but I guess it’s just one of those things. I understand that Valentine’s Day can be obnoxious for some people. But the most obnoxious thing about the day, is the Facebook status that we’re all sure to see. It goes a little something like, “No valentine this year, guess I’ll be alone for the rest of my life” (grammar may vary depending on who posts the status). 

The status is not necessarily the part that bothers me but, rather, the person posting it. I don’t know about you, but most of my Facebook friends and the people I follow on Twitter fall under one of two categories -- they’re either high school or college-aged people. My point is that when I see this general post on social media, it’s usually coming from someone my age who thinks that because they are single at this particular moment means that they are alone forever.

People my age are desperate to define themselves through a relationship. The awkward time between high school and college graduation is when people find themselves. Everyone is unsure how to define themselves, without first defining the people around them. We are so hungry to define ourselves as part of a group, instead of as an individual. We search for a definition to latch onto so that we belong, not only to a group but to someone, because belonging to someone gives us importance. Right? Wrong.

I don’t want to sound too cliché, or predictable, but defining yourself as someone’s personal belonging does not give you importance. You have to decide you belong to yourself and give yourself importance.

So, single Facebookers, you are not going to be alone for the rest of your life. Your person will come whenever he or she wanders into your life, no worries.