Valentine's Day is important to most people that are young and are still in that "puppy love" stage. Or, for those people who don't spend much time together, Valentine's Day is a time to show off their significant other. And that's fine.
However, to me, Valentine's Day is unnecessary. I know, you are probably rolling your eyes and thinking that I am just a bitter, single, jealous person. But in all reality, that's not the case. I've been in a long, serious relationship for almost five years now. That's a long time to be with someone and not care about Valentine's Day, right? Well, here is why:
I have been in a relationship with the same man for almost five years now. Of course, we celebrated Valentine's Day the first year or two by going out to dinner, getting a box of chocolates, and maybe a cute card, but that was as far as it ever went. We are celebrating our fifth Valentine's Day together this year and have no intentions of making plans, buying chocolate, or signing cards. It may seem weird to you, but not to us.
We both have to realize that Valentine's Day is nothing but a joke. It's just an excuse for all the cheaters to "make up" for their mess ups by buying a ridiculous gift. It's an excuse for the ladies who aren't paid attention to, to get taken on a date once a year. It's a day where every mistake, wrong decision, neglect, or argument is magically wiped away. A clean slate for one day. For what reason? More than likely, the same stuff is gonna happen the next day. And honestly, all of the chocolate goes on sale the next day so HELLO! Who cares about the actual day?
The day after is so much more important for obvious reasons. When you are in the right relationship, you will find that Valentine's Day really isn't that important to you or your signifant other. Just like me, you will find yourself in a relationship that you've been dreaming of. He will love your mood swings right along with your laughing fits. He will take care of you, physically and emotionally. He will love you so much. You'll be comfortable enough to have zero makeup on, and you won't care what your hair looks like. You'll learn that the extra five pounds you gain from eating too much Mexican food won't bother him at all. You experience a special kind of love that you never knew you could even feel. You both are so comfortable. You feel protected and safe when he's around. You will realize why Valentine's Day is unnecessary.
Every single day of your relationship is important.
Going out to dinner isn't a special event anymore. You buy each other cute little gifts all the time. He gets you flowers just because its Tuesday and you've already had the worst week ever. When you find the right one, it just works. All the time. Every day. Of course you are going to bicker and have dumb arguments. That is normal.
But, when you're in the right relationship, these "puppy love" holidays won't matter anymore. I promise that you will understand what I mean when you find someone special. Every day is a special day when you really love someone. Your turn will come, so don't rush it.
So, from me to you, I hope you find someone who makes you realize that Valentine's Day is just another day, as it should be.
